Separation and divorce are difficult for everyone involved, but if you have children the situation can become even more complicated. There are two types of child custody that you must consider: legal and physical. Legal custody refers to who makes the decisions for the child related to things like health care, schooling, and welfare issues. Physical custody refers to who is responsible for providing shelter for the child and who spends the most time with them. Parents can have sole or joint legal or physical custody. In general, a child custody agreement must be approved by a judge in order to be legal and enforceable under state laws. Even though a judge needs to approve the custody agreement, many parents prefer to develop a plan outside of court before bringing it to a judge, which is sometimes more cost-effective and less contentious than a drawn-out trial in court.

Developing a Parenting Plan

The first step in developing a custody agreement is to agree on a parenting plan, which is basically a proposed custody agreement outlining whether custody will be joint or not, the details of visitation schedules for the non-custodial parent, if applicable, as well as the duties and responsibilities of each parent. Parenting plans usually also provide information about parental rights and the rights of other parties who might be involved in the child’s life such as grandparents or stepparents. Although there is no set form for parenting plans, they can be as detailed or as simple as the parties want.

Ways to Arrange a Custody Agreement Outside of the Court

There are a few different ways to arrive at a parenting plan and then custody agreement outside of court:

• Informal Negotiations – if parents have a mostly amicable relationship they might choose to create a parenting plan together through direct communication and discussion without involving outside parties.
• Collaboration – if parents cannot agree on a parenting plan, they might choose to communicate through their attorneys.
• Mediation – if direct communication or collaboration fails to provide the desired results, some parents turn to mediation, a process in which a neutral third party works with both parents and their attorneys. It should be noted that nothing the mediator says or does is legally binding.

Using any of the methods above, once the parents arrive at a parenting plan that is acceptable to both sides, both parties must sign the agreement and present it to the court for approval.

Deciding What is Best for Your Situation

Custody decisions are always delicate because the emotions and well-being of children are involved, but sometimes they can also be complicated by more serious issues such as domestic violence, allegations of abuse or one parent moving far away or even living in another country. Even in less complicated cases, parents going through divorce and fighting for custody tend to be stressed and emotional, which might make it difficult to think clearly or come to an agreement.

Hiring an attorney to assist you can make a particularly difficult time in your life easier. Our team of experienced family law attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri has been helping families in the greater Bay Area navigate the complicated landscape of custody arrangements and the court system for decades. Call us today at 408-553-0801 to schedule a free half-hour consultation. We would be happy to discuss your options and help you decide on the best path forward in your unique situation.

Divorce can be complicated and draining, both financially and emotionally. While some divorces may include complicated legal battles, there are others that have the simple focus of moving forward. In the case of the latter, the process for divorce can seem simple enough. Having a lawyer to help you navigate the divorce may seem unnecessary.

Filing For Divorce Without a Lawyer

In some parts of the country, it is fast and simple to file for divorce without a lawyer. Areas with strong domestic court systems may offer options to spouses that allow them to file themselves. This could include checklists and forms that help spouses navigate through the divorce process. It may even be possible to expedite the divorce if it falls within certain guidelines.

However, without a lawyer, it can be difficult to understand and follow the rules necessary to obtain a divorce. Learning the process can be overwhelming. Some courts require self-represented parties to take classes that provide information on the divorce process. Other courts do not provide this, instead expecting self-represented parties to obtain the correct information on their own. Additionally, courts that do not offer support in navigating divorces, or do not offer a way to file online, can prove exceedingly difficult for parties representing themselves. Parties must spend hours learning the process, finding the correct documents, and filing them with a clerk. Having a lawyer, who has navigated the process many times and understands what to do, can make life much simpler. While it is possible to file for divorce without an attorney, it can make it a very time-consuming and difficult process.

Alternatives to Hiring a Lawyer

The emotional and financial burden of divorce can make many decisions feel overwhelming. It can be hard to find the right lawyer, especially if you feel your case does not warrant an attorney at all. If hiring a lawyer is not a possibility for you, there are other options. One option is consulting with a lawyer on an as-needed basis. This could include asking an attorney to look over your paperwork before filing or receiving help navigating an online filing process. Consulting with a lawyer when you need to can provide a great balance between doing everything on your own and hiring a lawyer full-time. If hiring a lawyer is not an option because of financial constraints, visiting a family law clinic can be an excellent way to receive quality legal advice. Many clinics offer sliding-scale or flexible payment options, depending on the circumstances.

Determine What’s Right For You

Divorce can be a very tough obstacle to overcome. With so much uncertainty, it can be hard to decide whether hiring a lawyer is the best option for you. While it is not strictly necessary to have an attorney to complete a divorce, it can be extremely helpful. At Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri, we would be happy to discuss your options and assist you in understanding what’s best for you. Call us for a consultation today at 408-553-0801.