For the longest time, your spouse was your world. Whenever you had an exciting day, an interesting moment or fun experience you couldn’t wait to share it with them. They were your life, and they were enough.

Today, everything is different.

You and your significant other argue – constantly. It’s been like this for a while and it hasn’t been getting better. You wonder how and why it got to this point. Is it you or is it them? Wherever the problem is, it does not seem resolvable.

The decision to divorce can be one of the most difficult and emotional decisions to make. Before seeking a divorce, it is important to consider that there are many reasons to try and save a marriage, especially when there are children involved. Counseling and hard work can make a considerable difference, even if the circumstances seem bleak.

Unfortunately, often one or both parties see divorce as the only way to legally end a marriage which emotionally ended long ago. This is a personal decision for each party involved. Once the decision is made, each step afterwards may be clouded in mystery, especially if the divorce process is new.

Some of the most common questions regarding divorce are:

• How do I find a lawyer that is right for me?
• How much will it cost?
• What steps need to be taken?
• How do I begin the divorce process?
• What should I expect as I go through this process?
• Who gets the kids?
• What am I legally entitled to get under California law?
• Is divorce the same for a married same-sex couple?

If divorce is inevitable for your relationship, do not let fear and doubt paralyze you from making the best choice for you. Divorce is hard – emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, financially and socially.  It will impact each aspect of your life, from your immediate family to your extended family and friends. Seeking the advice of a professional may not only alleviate fears and doubts about the process, but will also educate you about the process so you can make better decisions for yourself and your family.

If you are considering divorce or have questions about divorce planning, please contact our California Certified Family Law Specialists (as certified by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization). Our attorneys have decades of experience handling complex family law proceedings and offer a free consultation.

Please remember that each individual situation is unique and results discussed in this post are not a guarantee of future results.  While this post may include legal issues, it is not legal advice.  Use of this site does not create an attorney-client relationship.

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