Going through a divorce is a devastating and stressful reality and experiencing a divorce after an affair often magnifies the emotional impact on people. People facing a divorce after an affair should make it a priority to educate themselves with a few basic principles regarding affairs and divorce settlements.
Understanding the “No-Fault” Divorce Principle
The state of California practices the “no-fault” principle, which means that one spouse does not have to prove that the marriage failed due to the fault of the other spouse. Instead, the spouse(s) need only claim that the spouses have “irreconcilable differences,” or that one spouse suffers from “incurable insanity.” In other words, either one spouse has a mental illness that makes cohabitation difficult, or the two spouses simply cannot get along and are no longer compatible.
This is a modern principle on divorce settlement which vastly differs from the antiquated principle that requires a specific reason for the failed marriage and which often involves one person being blamed for the divorce.
This means that adultery no longer holds the same effect on a divorce settlement that it once did. However, the added layer of adultery does make the divorce settlement substantially more complicated, as there are a few instances in which the person who committed the infidelity suffers from financial repercussions. Severe and specific situations in which the children were emotionally impacted by the divorce can also affect custodial arrangements.
In order to best prepare you for your divorce settlement after an affair, Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri offers a comprehensive guide to understanding your legal rights for divorce after an affair.
How Affairs Affect Child Custody Arrangements
It is a common belief that the immorality associated with having an affair often tarnishes a person’s reputation in court. Judges, however, typically don’t consider an affair when determining child custody arrangements because it is generally understood that the act of having an affair does not directly affect a parent’s ability to provide a safe and supportive home. There are a few exceptions to this rule in which the judges determine that the affair caused the child severe emotional harm or impeded on the safety of their living environment.
Such circumstances that may discourage a judge from awarding child custody or visitation rights include:
Situations in which the spouse or the person they had an affair with physically abused the children
Examples of neglect such as a parent frequently leaving younger children alone while engaging in their affair
Events in which the parent engaged in frequent substance abuse while having the affair
And even circumstances in which a parent frequently brings their lover around their children, thus subjecting them to emotional turmoil and stress.
If your affair and divorce settlement involved one of the aforementioned situations then it is especially important to hire a qualified divorce attorney in San Jose in order to best present your case.
How Affairs Affect Alimony Payments or Property Division
Another common misconception about divorce after affairs is that the person who committed the adulterous acts is financially obligated to pay for the stress that they caused their spouse.
Judges, however, do not consider affairs in regards to alimony payments, but instead, determine the amount and schedule of payments based on one spouse’s financial dependency on the other.
However, there are a few exceptions to this rule of thumb in which judges may alter the alimony payments. For example, if the spouse who would normally receive alimony is living with the person that they had an affair with, then they may have less need, but generally, the “new” spouse’s income is not considered in setting support.
Another example in which a judge could adjust alimony payments is when the person who had the affair lavishly spent money on their lover for dinners, hotel rooms, gifts, or weekend getaways; these adjustments are a result of reimbursement claims. It is essential to understand that judges are not lawfully bound to grant the other spouse financial compensation for the affair itself.
The principle practiced in California divorce law known as “community property,” states that assets accumulated during a marriage must be split evenly if the marriage ends. In other words, some judges may interpret that law as meaning that the spouse who was cheated on is entitled to their share (50 percent) of the money that was spent on the affair.
Since this principle is merely an interpretation of the law and it is not explicitly stated, it makes divorce trials after an affair significantly more complex and timely.
If you are facing a divorce after an affair and want to protect the interests of you and your children, then it is critical to invest in a qualified divorce attorney in San Jose, California. LPEP is one of the largest family law firms in the Bay Area and is experienced with complex and high-asset divorce settlements.
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We’re living in a very uncertain time right now. Everything is unprecedented and everyone is handling COVID-19 differently. There are a few common practices being taken by local and state governments that we can lean on for stability. What does the Shelter-In-Place order mean for you and your family, and family law?
What Is A Shelter In Place Order?
Shelter in place orders are employed during or after a crisis to protect the population. These are usually issued locally which is why you are seeing orders with differing stipulations coming out of different states and counties. A shelter in place order requires residents to stay at home with the exception of essential travel and business.
Are Courts And Family Law Firms Considered Essential?
Many people who were facing legal trouble before the pandemic are now wondering how this will affect their cases. Courts and law firms are considered essential businesses, however, they are operating on a restricted basis. Only people who have hearings before the court will be allowed in the courthouses. Each county in the Bay Area has different regulations they are operating under. For Santa Clara, certain courts will remain open during the COVID-19 crisis, one being the Family Law Justice Center Courthouse. They are handling a restricted type of cases at this time. Some of those being:
Child custody and visitation matters – ex parte requests, modifications due to child safety concerns, modifications due to parents withholding visitation
Guardianship with child safety concerns
You can learn more about the matters family law courts are handling here.
Temporary Emergency Rules
During coronavirus, the courts have enacted new emergency rules and revised existing ones to best serve the community. Emergency rule #8 was revised. It discusses the matter of extending protective and restraining orders. There is no longer an automatic extension of duration of orders during the pandemic. Now, the courts must provide persons a way to request renewals and extensions only.
Emergency rule #13 deals with support requests and orders. This rule was created to ease the burden of requesting changes to child support, spousal or partner support, and family support orders during coronavirus. It is more challenging to file requests at this time, and the courts are having a hard time processing them. To deal with this, the courts are allowing service of unfiled requests.
For a list of all temporary emergency rules, go here.
Government Aid and Back Child Support
The government is offering aid to the public in the form of a $1200 stimulus check. This is to offset the damage to the economy and the loss of jobs across the country. Family law matters are affecting the release of these funds. If a parent owes outstanding child support payments, they will see their funds reduced or will not be issued a stimulus check.
To learn more about how family law in the Bay Area is affected by COVID-19, check out these resources here. You can also set up a free virtual consultation with one of our family law attorneys to help you with any questions or cases you may have. You can set up a consultation here.
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The idea that you and your spouse may no longer share your lives together can be devastating and it is common for people to get lost in the emotional toll and legal confusion. When the time is right, however, it is wise to educate yourself on your available options for your next steps with your spouse.
Though the terms legal separation and divorce are often used interchangeably in California, they have distinguishing features. Before pursuing one option, it may be beneficial to understand the difference between legal separation and divorce.
Legal Separation vs. Divorce
Both legal separation and divorce refer to a legal process that arranges the division of property, child custody, visitation rights, and a schedule of alimony payments (when applicable).
A divorce is a firm legal division that legally ends the marriage. People who choose divorce over legal separation are often either hoping to become remarried in the future, hoping to dissolve nearly all financial and legal obligations between the spouses, or see no legal benefit of maintaining their marriage
Though divorce is more common, there are benefits of maintaining a legal separation. With a separation, the spouses’ property and financial assets are still divided, however, the spouses often live separately. The key difference is that spouses who legally separate are still considered legally married and can benefit financially if they so desire.
People who seek legal separation often do so because:
The spouses are having significant difficulties but want the option to work on their marriage in the future
The spouses have not fulfilled the six-month time period that spouses must meet in the state of California before filing for divorce
The spouses do not believe in divorce due to religious or spiritual reasons
One spouse receives health or social security benefits that they wish to continue to share with the other
The spouses want to maintain the tax savings of a married couple
The spouses feel that a separation is less devastating and easier to handle than a divorce
Please keep in mind that certain benefits are not valid after legal separation and it often requires the scrutiny of an experienced lawyer to assess whether the benefits may be shared in a separation.
Often people who undergo a legal separation falsely believe that it is unnecessary to invest in an experienced family law attorney. This mistake can have a devastating financial effect on one spouse if the other spouse hires an aggressive and experienced family law attorney.
The Bottom Line
Though legal separation may appear to be a less complicated process than a divorce, the three most contested issues in a divorce — the separation of assets, child custody and visitation rights, and the schedule of alimony payments — are still all present with legal separation.
Before pursuing a divorce or legal separation, it is advised to speak with an experienced separation and divorce attorney in your area. Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri offers free 30-minute consultations for people wishing to educate themselves in family law practice or who have questions regarding their unique situation.
No matter which option you choose, it is important for you to invest in a qualified and reputable family law attorney in San Jose County. LPEP is one of the largest family law firms in the Bay Area, with more than 100 years of combined experience. Set up a free virtual consultation here.
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Harassment is a form of abuse that no person should have to endure. It can affect your mood, work performance, sleep schedule and overall well-being which may lead to more issues down the road. This is why it’s best to take the steps of dealing with harassment seriously by hiring a harassment lawyer. Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can better inform you of what harassment is, how their harassment lawyers can help, and what you can do to protect yourself from harassment and domestic violence in the Bay Area.
What Qualifies as Harassment?
Unfortunately, harassment in cases of domestic violence comes in many different forms and is not uncommon. Overall, this type of harassment includes verbal (in person or multimedia communication) or physical actions that create an offensive, hostile, and/or uncomfortable environment for the victim. Sexual harassment includes unwelcome verbal comments or physical actions that are of a sexual nature.
Typically, to be treated as harassment, the action(s) must happen more than once. There are exceptions to this in cases of extreme acts of harassment, aggression, abuse, etc.
Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri deals specifically with harassment in regards to domestic violence cases. If you are being harassed and abused by someone close to you, help is available.
35.6% of women and 28.5% of men in the United States have experienced abuse or harassment in some form by an intimate partner in their lifetime. That’s over 1 in 3 women and more than 1 in 4 men (National Domestic Violence Hotline).
If you’re suffering from domestic abuse and harassment, or if you feel unsafe, there are steps you can take.
Safety Precautions
Meeting with a harassment lawyer is a good idea if you are unsure of what actions to take. Until then, be sure to keep documentation of any occurrences related to the harassment and any information that could be of use later on.
If possible, reach out to someone you can trust. Attempt to find witnesses who will support you and back you up.
Keep records of every important detail regarding your situation in case you need it later. Reach out for assistance if at all necessary, to ensure you are doing the best for yourself.
You may want to consider getting a restraining order for your personal safety and the safety of your children if you have them.
What Harassment Lawyers Can Do for You
Seeking out a lawyer before reporting your harassment may be best for you if there are chances of retaliation from your harasser, or if you are unsure of how to properly report the harassment or domestic violence. There is nothing wrong with contacting a harassment lawyer just to be safe. Domestic violence is a delicate matter that requires knowledgeable and responsible guidance.
Harassment lawyers can help you decide and go through the necessary steps of reporting harassment or abuse following your area’s laws. Helping with descriptive statements and documentation can come as a great help in case nerves or fear set in while attempting to recall events later on.
A lawyer can also help you set up a restraining order with the local authorities. They can work with you to gather evidence proving your claims, and can help develop the stipulations under which you want the restraining order to function and protect you.
In addition to this, harassment lawyers will monitor the behavior regarding your harasser and their responses to the report. A lawyer can aid in ensuring your safety, as well as the accuracy of all legal statements along the way to bring you the best outcome possible.
Luckily, harassment and domestic violence is taken seriously in the Bay Area and surrounding cities, and LPEP is well equipped to dealing with these situations.
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Are you and your spouse considering divorce? It’s a tricky subject and often, a point of contention. Taking the necessary steps to ensure you’re prepared can make all the difference. Hiring a divorce lawyer to help you with divorce planning is recommended for a myriad of reasons; one being that it can prevent a nasty trial in some cases.
Our San Jose divorce lawyers explain what you need to know to prepare for your divorce.
What Is Divorce Planning?
Divorce planning is done by a spouse with the help of a divorce lawyer. In the time leading up to actually requesting a divorce from your spouse, you will work with an attorney to plan out where you are currently and where you want to be after your divorce.
Divorce planning covers all areas of your life from your living situation to child custody. The end goal is to make your divorce as smooth as possible and to result in a favorable outcome for you.
What Areas Should You And Your Divorce Attorney Consider?
How to tell your spouse – One of the most rattling parts of divorce is deciding how to broach the subject with your spouse. It can be intimidating and often very emotional. An experienced divorce lawyer can work with you to anticipate how your spouse is likely to react to the news, and how best to approach the subject with them for an efficient, logical conversation.
You may also need to plan how to tell your children about the divorce. This is something you can plan ahead of time and then collaborate on with your spouse after you’ve informed them of your decision.
Where you will live – As a couple, you most likely have acquired property together. At the very least, you are on a lease together. You will need to create a plan with your attorney for where you will live. You can do this by planning out a budget to ensure you can afford new living situations. You will also have to consider where your children will live during the divorce if you have children with your spouse.
Spousal Support – If you are the breadwinner or the sole earner of your household, be prepared for the financial responsibility you have towards your spouse. You may be required by court to pay spousal support during the divorce proceedings. If you are the non-earning spouse, don’t expect spousal support. It is not guaranteed. It is best to consider getting a job. A divorce lawyer can help inform you of your options, whether you’re the primary earner or the non-earner in your relationship.
What about the children? – If you have children, there is a lot of planning to be done in this area. For instance, where will they live? Will you and your spouse share custody or do you plan to fight for sole custody? If you’re the primary earner, you will probably have to pay child support. You will need to work with a divorce lawyer to plan for the specifics of this future expense. If you are the non-earner, will you be requesting child support? If you and your spouse live in different districts, where will the children attend school, and how will the custody schedule work around that schedule?
Paperwork – An experienced attorney can inform you of all the paperwork and documents you will need to file for divorce. They can also guide you through the filing process such as where to file and what the laws are regarding divorce.
Having an experienced divorce lawyer to help you with divorce planning is crucial. They can keep you informed and position you for the best possible outcome for your divorce. Whatever your position in the marriage, Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri is prepared to help you. Get strong representation to help you with your plan. Set up a free planning consultation today.
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It’s common to have questions about alimony during divorce cases. The laws on alimony differ state to state. In California, alimony is referred to as spousal support and can be issued in two forms. Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri, experienced lawyers in divorce and separation, have broken down these two types to help you know what to expect.
When a couple is going through separation, they often wonder about alimony. Will they have to pay it? Do they qualify to receive it? How much will they receive? The truth is the answer varies case by case. Like many things in law, everything is specific to your case and your needs.
Alimony is a legal order to make support payments to one spouse during or after the divorce. In San Jose, there are two types of spousal support : Temporary and Permanent. Just because you qualify for one does not guarantee you’ll qualify for the other. Find out which one you may qualify for.
Temporary Spousal Support
The purpose of temporary support is to maintain the status quo of the household prior to divorce during the separation case. The time frame this is owed will vary depending on the case. A spouse will be ordered to pay temporary support until a judgement is reached. This can last as briefly as 6 months or up to several years. The amount you will receive is calculated via a software program. The gross monthly income for both you and your spouse is input into a computer program and processed. An amount for monthly payments is then submitted to the court along with who is responsible for those payments.
This type of support is common in cases where the primary breadwinner runs off and refuses to support the other partner. The other partner may have given up a career or education to stay at home and look after the family. This places them at a disadvantage and the court will often order temporary support to help. If the primary breadwinner refuses to pay support, the payments can be taken directly out of their paychecks. Temporary alimony can be issued in addition to child support.
Permanent Alimony
While temporary support is decided exclusively on gross monthly income, the court uses more discretion when determining permanent support. Both parties will go to trial over the amount owed. Factors that go into determining the amount to be paid and the length of payments are net income of both parties, if children are involved, age of both spouses, the health of both spouses and if both parties have a job or if one is in need of training. The purpose of permanent support is to transition the lower earning spouse into a lifestyle that is sustainable and allows them to be self sufficient. It is also to compensate the lower earning spouse for any damage caused to their earning potential. This refers to what we mentioned in temporary support; a case where one spouse gave up a career or education to be the homemaker.
The amount of time spousal support is owned depends on the length of marriage according to San Jose law. If a marriage is determined short term (less than 10 years), half the length of the marriage is typically rule of thumb but not guaranteed. Long term marriages (10+ years) are more open ended. They can be paid for 10 years or even longer. There’s no way to give a definitive answer to this as it’s determined on a per person basis.
Get In Contact
If you live in San Jose, CA and have questions about alimony, reach out to the experienced attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri. They offer free 30 minute consultations. Find out your chances of receiving temporary or permanent support. If you have children, you can learn about child support as well.
Please remember that each individual situation is unique, and results discussed in this post are not a guarantee of future results. While this post may detail general legal issues, it is not legal advice. Use of this site does not create an attorney-client relationship.
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As the grandparent of a child whose parents are going through a divorce, many questions can be raised. Will the grandparents be able to maintain visitation of the child? In some cases, if the parents are unfit, can the grandparents be granted full custody? What about joint custody? Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri are experienced family law attorneys with knowledge in grandparents rights. Getting the help of a trusted attorney can give you peace of mind and guide you through this challenging time.
Grandparents Rights: Visitation
A grandparents rights to visitation vary state to state. In San Jose, the option for visitation is granted only under specific circumstances. If the parents live separately, are unmarried or a child does not live with either parent or is in the individual care of a step parent, visitation rights may be requested. They may also request visitation if a parent is deceased or if one parent has not been found for over a month. Parents can petition for a grandparent to have visitation rights. If at least one parent agrees to visitation, California courts will consider it. The parents can also refuse visitation rights. If both parents decide they don’t want the grandparents to have visitation, courts will usually determine it is not in the best interest of the child despite any bond that has been formed with the child.
Joint Custody
If you live in San Jose and are seeking joint custody of your grandchild, the good news is it’s possible. Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri Family Law can help you gain joint custody. So, when can a grandparent try for joint custody? If custody to a parent/ parents is proven to potentially harm the child, primary custody to a non parent may be awarded. California also operates under the policy of the best interest of the child. If it is proven to be in the best interest of the child to live with their grandparents, joint custody is possible. At the end of the day, it comes down to a stable, safe environment for the child to be raised in.
Full Custody
This is more complicated as California courts typically like to keep parents and children together. There are specific cases where a child may be placed in the full care of a grandparent. For example, if the parents of the child have died, custody may be granted to grandparents. As with joint custody, if parental custody is deemed unsafe or not in the best interest of the child, custody may be granted to a non parent. Parents can also grant full custody to the grandparents or lessen their chance at custody if the child has lived with the grandparents for over a year.
Grandparents rights are circumstantial and very complicated. It’s best to acquire the help of an experienced family law attorney such as those at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri. Get a free 30 minute consultation to go over your options. You don’t have to face this situation alone.
Please remember that each individual situation is unique, and results discussed in this post are not a guarantee of future results. While this post may detail general legal issues, it is not legal advice. Use of this site does not create an attorney-client relationship.
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It used to be that a mother was seen as the primary caregiver of a child. This led to custody often being awarded to mothers over fathers. Things have changed and the courts realize that fathers have a substantial effect on a child’s life. Fathers rights are legitimate and you’re just as likely to gain custody as the mother – barring certain circumstances.
Determining Custody
Child custody in California is determined by the best interest of the child. This is a standard used in San Jose and the rest of California to maintain equality in custody cases. This means that the court will determine which parent has the best interest of the child in mind and will provide the best environment for the child.
As a father, you have the right to seek custody of your child. You and the mother both have the right to request visitation rights. Both parties are viewed as equal by the courts. Just like in any child custody case, there are a few things that could prevent you from gaining visitation rights or custody of your kids.
If there is evidence of child abuse, domestic abuse, drug abuse, or addiction by either party, this will impact child custody.
The courts make it a priority to keep both parents as involved in their kids’ lives as possible. This is because, in San Jose, the courts believe children benefit from a healthy loving relationship with both parents.
As a father, if you have a better relationship with your child and are better able to care for them, the courts are likely to award you custody. This is all based on case to case, however.
Paternity And Custody
To be eligible for child custody, a male must prove (or have done so previously) parentage or paternity. In San Jose, these terms are used synonymously.
Paternity can be established in a variety of ways.
VDP – This is a voluntary declaration of paternity. It is used when a child is born in a medical setting and both parents or parties acknowledge each other as the legal parents through signing this form. This adds the father as the rightful parent on the birth certificate alongside the mother.
Paternity/ Parentage Action – A paternity test can be ordered by multiple parties to determine parentage. A potential father seeking to legitimize his claim or a mother using the services of the child support agency are a couple examples.
In some cases, paternity may have already been established. A child born in marriage is considered to be the child of both married parties. If the parents are unmarried but are living together in a familial situation, the male is considered the child’s father. This is, of course, if he has taken on a parental role with the child despite not being the biological father in some cases.
Fathers Rights And Child Support
To be determined as the primary caregiver and custodian of a child means that child will live with you. You are responsible for housing and caring for the child the majority of the time, and can determine where they live. The other parent may be granted visitation rights, barring any circumstances mentioned above that jeopardize the safety of the child.
As the primary custodian, you have the right to request child support from the other party. This is a sum paid monthly that helps with the costs of raising your child.
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Custody is an in depth subject with plenty of nuance. It can be complicated to know where to begin. If you’re in the middle of a dispute over child custody or you’re simply wondering how to navigate this with your ex partner, these questions will get you started.
1. What is the definition of child custody and the difference between sole and shared custody?
Child custody regards the legal relationship between a parent or guardian and a child. There are two types of custody – physical custody(responsibility to house and take care of the child) and legal custody(the right to make decisions regarding the child).
Shared custody, also known as joint custody, is where both parents have the right to care for and make decisions regarding the kids. If there are differences between the two parents that cannot be resolved on certain issues of raising their kids, one parent or an appointed social worker must have the final word or power of decision.
Sole custody means one parent has full authority over custody of a child. They make the final decisions on how to raise and care for the child. The other parent has a right to voice their opinion but the parent with sole custody decides the final result.
2. What is the difference between arbitration and mediation in a Child Custody matter?
Arbitration and mediation share many similarities. They both involve a neutral third party such as an impartial judge or counselor or lawyer.
In arbitration, the impartial third party sits down with the two parties in a custody case. Both parties submit evidence and documents to the arbitrator to prove their case. The arbitrator will then make a legally binding decision based on what has been submitted. While this decision can be appealed, it is very difficult. You must prove the third party was non neutral.
Mediation is a favored way to avoid court based litigation. A neutral third party will guide the two parties towards settlement of issues in an amicable fashion. This is different from arbitration as any decisions reached are non binding.
Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri helps people in San Jose and Santa Clara avoid litigation through arbitration and mediation. If you need help with custody, contact them for a free 30 minute consultation.
3. In the state of California, is one parent more likely to be granted sole custody than the other?
While, in the past, it was common for mothers to receive custody over fathers, things have changed. In areas such as San Jose and Santa Clara, CA, both parents are considered equally in custody cases. Barring any drug problems or domestic violence and abuse, sole custody could be awarded to either party based on the best interest of the child. The rare exception is if a child is particularly young and would best be served living with one party.
4. In the State of California, how is child custody determined?
In California, custody is not biased towards the sex of a parent. Custody is determined based on the standards of the best interest of the child. This includes the health and safety of kids and ideally a continuing relationship with both parents.
Courts tend to favor the parent who is able to put personal issues in the relationship aside. This means they are able to maintain amicable contact with their ex for the sake of the child.
Gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, handicap or financial status does not impact the decision of custody. The law in California tries to make the process as fair and equal as possible.
5. How does child custody differ for married parents versus unmarried parents?
Regardless of whether a child is born out of wedlock, child custody decisions are all made on the same principle – the best interest of the child. However, there is an important distinction in child custody cases for married versus unmarried parents.
In cases in which a child is born out of wedlock, the mother of the child is considered the custodial parent, meaning the parent who has sole physical and legal custody. The father of a child born out of wedlock has no legal custody rights until paternity has been established or a Court Order has been established regarding custody and visitation.
In cases in which the parents of a child are married, both parents are considered legal guardians and custodial parents, unless otherwise stated by the Court. Although it is an extra step, once paternity has been established, the standard for custody determination for unmarried parents and married parents is the same.
6. What does the term “best interest of the child” mean and how do you prove what the best interest of the child is?
“Best interest of the child” is the legal standard by which most courts base decisions in child custody cases. This means that custody and visitation decisions and discussions are made by a judge based on what will best support and promote the development, well-being, and happiness of the child. There are many factors that are considered when determining the best interest of the child such as child’s age and preference, consistency, mental and physical well-being of parents, safety and parental ability. These factors may vary from state to state.
7. What is the difference between legal custody versus physical custody?
Legal custody is the right a parent has to make decisions about the child’s well-being and how they are raised. This includes decisions about schooling and medical care. It also determines if a parent has the right to get information about the child.
Physical custody is the right and responsibility to physically house and care for a party’s kids. This includes how much time a child will spend with each parent.
8. What is child support and how does it work with child custody?
Child support is financial installments paid monthly to one parent or guardian of a child in order to help with the expenses of raising and caring for said child.
Whether or not a parent owes child support is determined by a few factors. One of these factors is timeshare percentage. This is the amount of time per year one parent spends with their child. The court also considers the gross monthly income of both parents. Child support can include add ons such as medical funds that health insurance doesn’t pay for. The amount of child support you pay can be modified over time.
9. Modifications of Custody Agreements: what if there is a change in the agreement or if a move away order has been presented?
Modifications are changes to a custody agreement. These are common as circumstances change over time, affecting the original agreement put in place by a judge or parenting plan. To approve a modification, one must prove a change in circumstance with facts and evidence. Some changes in circumstances include:
Change In Job Or Income – If a parent has a new job that pays more or less, this can affect the status of the custody agreement and the amount of child support a parent owes.
Change In Age Of Children – This can affect what’s in the best interest of the child and can impact the child’s wishes. The child’s wishes, when old enough, is considered by the court and has a significant impact.
When A Parent Violates A Custody Order – If a parent violates a custody order, they can be held in contempt of court. This does not always mean a modification will be approved but can affect the outcome in certain circumstances.
If A Parent Is Imprisoned – This can affect custody due to the limitations of being in prison. Being in prison can change how much child support a parent may pay, but the parent in prison will have to submit the modification to prove this change in circumstance. If they don’t, a significant amount of child support can accrue during their sentence.
Drug Problems Or Abuse – If a child is proven to be in a dangerous situation since the original order was put in place, this is solid ground for a modification in the custody order.
Move Away Orders – Move away orders are complicated. If a parent is considering moving, they should speak to the other parent immediately. The moving parent will have to go to court and ask permission to move. A parenting plan was set in place either through the plan the parents themselves worked out or the plan a judge set up. This plan determined what was the best interest of the child and if one parent wants to move away, it has to be evaluated if that is in the child’s best interest or if it will compromise that.
It is not typically considered what is in the best interest of the parent if it negatively impacts the child. However, if a parent is moving for a new job opportunity – one that will lead to the advancement and improvement of the life of a child – that results in the happiness of the parent, a judge will consider approving the modification. A judge will also consider approving the modification if a parent has a new serious relationship and their new partner is moving for a job opportunity. Once and if you’ve moved, you will have to request the original court transfer jurisdiction to the new court in your new state. The original court that had jurisdiction over your custody case will usually maintain jurisdiction.
Another option is to have the DCSS do the mod for you. This is a very drawn out process however and isn’t for everyone.
10. Can an attorney help avoid needless litigation or other concerns during the Child Custody process?
Choosing the right family law attorney can help you avoid litigation. No one wants a difficult custody battle. It isn’t good for you or your child. By choosing an experienced, compassionate lawyer, you have a better chance of mediation or arbitration. Your attorney should be able to tell you what the likely outcome of the case will be and what you should expect based on your situation. You could also lean on a family counselor or neutral third party such as a lawyer to help you develop a parenting plan both parties agree upon. This is one way to avoid litigation and make the process of custody as smooth as possible.
If two parents create a parenting plan out of court, it is advised to have the document reviewed by a lawyer to make sure it is in the best interest of the child before signing it. If you’ve created a parenting plan out of court, reach out to the experienced attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri for help reviewing the document. The court will then review the plan. Parenting plans are temporary until they are finalized by a court. A judge will consider any allegations or threats to the child’s safety before approving the plan. Once approved, the plan becomes a court order and cannot be violated.
