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How The Pandemic Is Increasing The Rate of Domestic Abuse
/0 Comments/in Family Law, In the Community /by Lonich Patton Ehrlich PolicastriDomestic violence (DV) and intimate partner violence (IPV) are deeply ingrained issues in our society that affect millions of people every year. On average, there are 20,000+ calls to domestic abuse helplines nationwide on a daily basis*. Adults aren’t the only victims of these assaults. 1 in 15 children is exposed to intimate partner violence annually**.
With the pandemic in full swing, and mandatory quarantines going into effect in 2020 and now 2021, experts have seen a rise in domestic abuse and IPV. In March, when the first stay-at-home orders were put into place, victims of IPV and DV were forced to stay at home with their abusers. While we’ve all been facing our own struggles these past 10 months, victims of abuse have been living in a state of perpetual fear and unsafety. Not only have they been facing the stress of potentially catching a fatal virus, but they have also been dealing with daily abuse from partners, family members, or other close relationships that they share a home with.
What is Considered Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse and IPV, while similar, are two different things. Intimate partner violence is violence at the hands of a romantic partner/ significant other. Domestic violence has a broader definition. DV can be at the hands of anyone in the household – family members, partners, friends, even children.
Domestic abuse can take many forms. It can be physical, mental, emotional, or sexual. It can include sexual assault, stalking, threats, verbal abuse, physical violence, and more.
How is the Pandemic Worsening Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse affects communities for a myriad of reasons. It commonly affects lower-income communities the most. Lower-income communities experience more everyday stressors than those who have financial security, especially during the pandemic.
Many low-income parents are essential workers. They are exposed to the virus at a higher rate due to their jobs, and being essential means that they can’t be home to care for their children who are now out of school due to Covid-19. Lack of childcare and financial instability can add tension to an already overwhelmed household.
In many cases, victims of IVP depend on their abuser for income and living arrangements. Abusers often make it difficult for their partners to hold a job or have any independent source of income. This is so they can keep their partner dependent and thus trapped in the abusive situation. It is a power play. For victims who are not allowed to have a job, and thus are stuck at home all day caring for the house and children, they are also vulnerable to more frequent attacks from a partner and violence becomes more frequent. Because they do not have their own income, they are unable to afford to leave the dangerous situation.
At home, learning is stressful for parents and children alike. Now that kids are forced to get an education from home, discrepancies in opportunities have become more visible. Many lower-income families do not have a stable internet connection and many don’t have internet at all. It’s not uncommon for lower-income families to not even own a computer for their children to use. With public libraries closed and schools closed, this creates a disadvantage for those children.
The stressors from lack of childcare and the difficulty of virtual & remote education have led to an increase in domestic child abuse.
How To Get Help
If you or a loved one is trapped in a home where domestic abuse is occurring, you need to reach out to local shelters and helplines. Setting up a safety plan during quarantine is key for escaping the dangers of your home situation. It’s hard to take steps towards leaving abusive partners because we often love them very much. But abuse is never acceptable no matter how much you love your abuser and no one ever deserves to be abused no matter what your abuser tells you.
If you live in San Jose or Santa Clara and want to take legal action, set up a free consultation with our domestic violence attorneys. We are discreet and compassionate. Our attorneys can help you set up a restraining order or can help you gain custody of your children if they are experiencing violence from someone in your household. You can contact us here to set up a consultation or to learn more about domestic abuse, read this.
What Is A Restraining Order & How To Get One
/0 Comments/in Family Law, Personal /by Lonich Patton Ehrlich PolicastriNobody should have to live in constant fear of another person. Yet physical or emotional abuse is not uncommon, and many people are often left unsure of how to protect themselves. Fortunately, there are legal processes that can protect you from having to deal with harassment, abuse, or being stalked. If you are fearful for your or your loved ones’ safety, then it is essential that you know how to get a restraining order, which is the first legal step in protecting your safety.
A restraining order(RO) is a legal order that a protected person can file against the restrained person in order to prevent them from taking harmful actions towards the protected person. The protected person may also name other people such as their children or relatives to be protected as well.
Before filing a restraining order, it is important to determine what you want the restrained person to be prohibited from doing. There are three types of restrictions that may be placed on a restrained person. A person may file for all three types of restrictions, depending on the severity of the abusive relationship.
How to Get a Restraining Order(RO)
Before filing a restraining order in California, you need to determine which type of RO you need. The type of restraining order depends on the nature of the relationship with the restrained person. You must select one of the four of the following types of restraining orders when filing.
In order to get a restraining order in California, you or your restraining order attorney must complete and file the legal court documents to begin the RO process. When you file the paperwork you should bring legal identification and any paperwork related to the restraining order such as past filings or paperwork associated with an emergency protective order.
Once the documents are complete, you must file the paperwork with the courthouse. In Santa Clara County, Domestic violence restraining orders are free, as well as civil harassment restraining orders if an act of violence has occurred. However, if no acts of violence have occurred, then there will be a fee for filing the civil harassment restraining order. If your income is low, you may want to bring pay stubs so that you may qualify for a fee waiver.
Once the paperwork is filed, a temporary restraining order may be granted until the date of the court hearing. During the court hearing, the judge will review the evidence and determine if further protection is necessary. The judge may grant protection for up to five years, at which point the protected person may file for a new restraining order.
There are incidences, however, in which the protected person is in danger and needs immediate protection. If you face an immediate threat to your safety, you may call the police to help remove the restrained person from your vicinity. The police may then file an emergency protective order which lasts for five to seven days, allowing you or your lawyer the time to file a temporary restraining order at the courthouse.
If you live in San Jose or the surrounding Bay Area and need help acquiring a domestic violence restraining order, contact one of our experienced attorneys today. We offer free 30 minute consultations. Set yours up here.
How To Help A Loved One Experiencing Domestic Violence
/0 Comments/in Family Law, Personal /by Lonich Patton Ehrlich PolicastriMillions of Americans are the victims of domestic abuse yearly. It’s likely that you have either faced it yourself or have a loved one who has. But what about your loved ones who are currently experiencing violence? How do you help them? If you’re noticing signs of domestic violence, or if your loved one has confided in you, there are steps you can take to help. Learn what you can do from an experienced domestic violence lawyer.
Signs of Domestic Violence
If you suspect that your friend or family member is experiencing domestic violence, there are some signs you can look for. Some are more obvious than others. You might notice…
This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to warning signs of domestic abuse. If your loved one hasn’t confided in you that they are being abused, there are certain ways to handle the situation, and it must be done delicately.
Supporting Your Loved One
Your first instinct may be to get the help of the police or a domestic violence lawyer. While this is necessary in the eventual resolution of the situation, this isn’t always the right, first step. Often, many victims of domestic violence are not ready to confront the fact that they are victims. They may have a lot of shame around the situation, and abusers often make their victims feel that they are at fault for their own abuse.
Don’t begin by telling them they are being abused and how they should handle it, although this may be your first instinct. Instead, start by expressing concern in a safe, private place away from the abuser. Listen to and support your loved one, and believe what they have to say. Do not be judgemental in any way. You need to validate them and remind them that they do not deserve to be hurt and that they are not to blame. That is so important, as they may feel it is their fault. Work to build up their self-esteem by reminding them of their worth and all of their positive qualities. For them to take the first steps towards leaving the situation, they need to believe they deserve to leave. Help them rebuild a support system. Abusers work to actively isolate their victims and drive their loved ones away so as to maintain control over their victim. By encouraging and helping your loved one rebuild those connections, you are building a strong foundation to support them when they leave. Ultimately, you need to put the power in your loved one’s hands. You need to remind them that they are strong and that they call the shots. Reminding them of their power can lead to the eventual will power they need to stand up for themselves and leave an abusive situation.
Getting Help
When your friend or family member has decided that they are ready to take the next step in leaving a bad situation, you should have the resources to help them. You want to know what to do ahead of time so that you can get them out of the situation as quickly as possible and as safely as possible. You will want the number of your local domestic violence helpline. You will also need to reach out to them ahead of time to learn about resources they have to offer.
You may also want to have the contact number of a domestic violence lawyer who can help in setting up a DVRO (domestic violence restraining order). They can also assist in pressing charges. You want an attorney who has extensive experience in the field of domestic violence, and who can handle the case delicately and discreetly. If your loved one is married to their abuser, a domestic violence lawyer can also aid in divorce litigation – especially if children are involved. In these matters, where there is a lot of hostility, you need an aggressive attorney who can work tirelessly to get justice for your loved one and their children, and to safely extricate them from a violent situation.
Courts tend to favor the interests of the abused spouse, and typically take accusations of abuse very seriously, especially if children are involved. If you have questions about what qualifies as domestic abuse in a court of law, and what your next steps should be in helping your friend, there are a couple resources you can use…
Domestic Abuse Intervention Services
National Domestic Violence Hotline
https://www.thehotline.org/help/help-for-friends-and-family/
LPEP Law – Domestic Violence Lawyer
https://www.lpeplaw.com/family-law/domestic-violence/
If you are based in or around San Jose, you can set up a free 30-minute consultation with one of our domestic violence attorneys here. We believe victims and actively work to create a safer, healthier life for victims and their children.
Child Custody, How SCCSC Judge Dealt with COVID-19 Rule
/0 Comments/in Family Law, News /by Lonich Patton Ehrlich PolicastriLonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri In The Community!
/0 Comments/in In the Community /by Michael LonichMock trial is a great way to learn the practical tools of the legal trade. Just ask Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri attorney, Bobby Khalajestani, who competed in several moot court competitions during law school and was a member of Santa Clara Law School’s Trial Team! Now though, Bobby is taking a seat at the judges’ table–in early February, he judged the 2017 Santa Clara High School Mock Trial Tournament. In a mock criminal trial, over 400 participating students had to get several statements in during pretrial motions, make objections based on the Evidence Code, conduct direct and cross examinations, and give opening and closing statements. Bobby reports that everybody competed at a very high level and displayed great court room skills! The tournament is ongoing as the students progress through multiple rounds, so be sure to check out the competition schedule if you would like to watch these future lawyers in action.
Congratulations to the tournament’s participants, and good luck to everybody still in the game!
For more information about Bobby or any of our firm’s attorneys, please contact Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri—we offer free half-hour consultation appointments to assess your family law and estate planning needs.
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