Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies for Minimizing Stress and Resolving Disputes

Divorce is never an easy process. In some cases, though, a divorce might become highly contentious due to disagreements about finances, child custody issues, infidelity, substance abuse, career choices, etc. Navigating a high-conflict divorce comes with different challenges, but the strategies outlined below can help minimize the stress on you and your family as you work toward resolving disputes with your former spouse. 

Clear Communication is Key

Even if you are the injured party, do your best to communicate in a civil and respectful way, especially in writing. While you cannot control the actions of your former partner, you can be careful about how you present yourself. Establish healthy boundaries to protect your emotions, agreeing to discuss pertinent issues only and letting your ex-partner know what topics are completely off-limits. If your former spouse makes communication extremely difficult, consider working through a mediator or other third party.

Stay Organized

Keeping track of all written communication, dates, agreements, co-parenting schedules, and court documents is essential to reducing the stress in a high-conflict divorce situation. If disputes come up, especially during court proceedings, you will have documentation to support your position. 

Be Flexible

While you may be completely in the right, and it is important to advocate for your rights, remember that some compromise will likely be necessary to resolve issues. Coming to a divorce agreement that is satisfactory to both sides regarding child support, custody, and visitation; spousal support; and division of the marital estate almost always requires some negotiation, unless there is a prenuptial agreement in place.  

Focus on the Positive

During your divorce, you and your family are likely experiencing a wide range of emotions and stress levels. To the best of your ability, try to focus on the positive, recognizing that this time is just a small chapter in your life and brighter days are ahead. If children are involved, give them something to look forward to like a trip to the beach or a visit to see grandparents. Engage in some self-care as well, maybe scheduling yourself a massage or spending time with friends, relaxing and enjoying leisure activities to de-stress.

Build a Support System

Now more than ever, you need the support of friends and family and maybe even a therapist or counselor as well. You might even seek out a support group online or at a local place of worship. Don’t be afraid to ask for emotional and mental support. Having outside perspectives and encouragement can be very helpful.

Seek Guidance From Professionals

It’s never a bad idea to consult with professionals who have experience resolving high-conflict divorces. The Family Law Group at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri has been helping clients navigate complex divorce cases for decades. Our team can help you make informed decisions and resolve disputes with your former spouse either through mediation and collaborative divorce, or in court. Call us today at (408) 553-0801 to schedule a free, 30-minute consultation to go over the details of your case. Let our team work to protect your rights and your family’s future.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.