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A woman takes her ring off as husband grieves behind her as a result of divorce after affair
Riley Pennington

Divorce After Affair – How Affairs Affect The Case

July 22, 2020/in Family Law /by Riley Pennington

Going through a divorce is a devastating and stressful reality and experiencing a divorce after an affair often magnifies the emotional impact on people. People facing a divorce after an affair should make it a priority to educate themselves with a few basic principles regarding affairs and divorce settlements.

Understanding the “No-Fault” Divorce Principle

The state of California practices the “no-fault” principle, which means that one spouse does not have to prove that the marriage failed due to the fault of the other spouse. Instead, the spouse(s) need only claim that the spouses have “irreconcilable differences,” or that one spouse suffers from “incurable insanity.”  In other words, either one spouse has a mental illness that makes cohabitation difficult, or the two spouses simply cannot get along and are no longer compatible.

This is a modern principle on divorce settlement which vastly differs from the antiquated principle that requires a specific reason for the failed marriage and which often involves one person being blamed for the divorce.

This means that adultery no longer holds the same effect on a divorce settlement that it once did. However, the added layer of adultery does make the divorce settlement substantially more complicated, as there are a few instances in which the person who committed the infidelity suffers from financial repercussions. Severe and specific situations in which the children were emotionally impacted by the divorce can also affect custodial arrangements.

In order to best prepare you for your divorce settlement after an affair, Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri offers a comprehensive guide to understanding your legal rights for divorce after an affair.

How Affairs Affect Child Custody Arrangements

It is a common belief that the immorality associated with having an affair often tarnishes a person’s reputation in court. Judges, however, typically don’t consider an affair when determining child custody arrangements because it is generally understood that the act of having an affair does not directly affect a parent’s ability to provide a safe and supportive home. There are a few exceptions to this rule in which the judges determine that the affair caused the child severe emotional harm or impeded on the safety of their living environment.

Such circumstances that may discourage a judge from awarding child custody or visitation rights include:

  • Situations in which the spouse or the person they had an affair with physically abused the children
  • Examples of neglect such as a parent frequently leaving younger children alone while engaging in their affair
  • Events in which the parent engaged in frequent substance abuse while having the affair
  • And even circumstances in which a parent frequently brings their lover around their children, thus subjecting them to emotional turmoil and stress.

If your affair and divorce settlement involved one of the aforementioned situations then it is especially important to hire a qualified divorce attorney in San Jose in order to best present your case.

How Affairs Affect Alimony Payments or Property Division

Another common misconception about divorce after affairs is that the person who committed the adulterous acts is financially obligated to pay for the stress that they caused their spouse.

Judges, however, do not consider affairs in regards to alimony payments, but instead, determine the amount and schedule of payments based on one spouse’s financial dependency on the other.

However, there are a few exceptions to this rule of thumb in which judges may alter the alimony payments. For example, if the spouse who would normally receive alimony is living with the person that they had an affair with, then they may have less need, but generally, the “new” spouse’s income is not considered in setting support. 

Another example in which a judge could adjust alimony payments is when the person who had the affair lavishly spent money on their lover for dinners, hotel rooms, gifts, or weekend getaways; these adjustments are a result of reimbursement claims. It is essential to understand that judges are not lawfully bound to grant the other spouse financial compensation for the affair itself.  

The principle practiced in California divorce law known as “community property,” states that assets accumulated during a marriage must be split evenly if the marriage ends. In other words, some judges may interpret that law as meaning that the spouse who was cheated on is entitled to their share (50 percent) of the money that was spent on the affair.

Since this principle is merely an interpretation of the law and it is not explicitly stated, it makes divorce trials after an affair significantly more complex and timely.

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If you are facing a divorce after an affair and want to protect the interests of you and your children, then it is critical to invest in a qualified divorce attorney in San Jose, California. LPEP is one of the largest family law firms in the Bay Area and is experienced with complex and high-asset divorce settlements.

Sign-up today to schedule a 30-minute consultation so that we can help you understand your unique needs regarding a divorce after an affair.

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David Patton

3 Common Reasons People Lose Child Custody Cases According To A Child Custody Lawyer

July 8, 2020/in Family Law /by David Patton

If you are looking for a child custody lawyer in San Jose California then you are probably facing the reality that there is the possibility, however slight, that you may no longer be able to see your kids as much as you deserve. 

A child custody case is one of the most stressful situations that a parent can experience, and many people are often unsure of where to turn. If you want custodial or visitation rights, then it is imperative that you act quickly and purposefully to ensure that you put forward a strong case for your children.

Our team of child custody lawyers in San Jose, California compiled a list of the top three reasons why people lose child custody cases so that you can be better prepared to give your children their best future.

1. Going to Trial Without Proper Preparation

Often parties seem confused by the amount of documentation and testimony that we compile for a strong custodial case. Mothers in particular wonder, “How can a mother lose custody of her child?”

Unfortunately, parents can become overconfident and believe that a judge will hand over custody without the need to prepare a strong case. It is common for the parent who is an underdog to invest in a top-quality child custody lawyer and walk away with custody and a large sum of child support payments.

In order to avoid this possibility, it is advised to hire a reputable child custody lawyer that is well known in your county and experienced with going to trial. This ensures that the judge will have a comprehensive understanding of why you are better suited for being the primary custodian of your children.

2. Not Being Active in Children’s Lives

Judges understand that being the primary custodian involves more than providing shelter and food — it is helping with homework, taking children to extracurricular activities, knowing their medication schedule, and having a strong relationship with them to name a few.

A small child holds its parent's hand after a child custody lawyer protected the parents rights to custody.

If you were not actively involved in your children’s lives prior to the separation, then it will be significantly more difficult to be granted full custody or become the primary custodian.

However, judges do understand that work obligations are sometimes unavoidable if one parent provides the only source of income. If a parent was unable to be heavily involved in their children’s lives but provides a strong case for their intentions of becoming more involved, then a judge may take the bigger picture into consideration.

3. Having a History of Abuse or Addiction

Judges analyze every detail of a parent’s past behavior and they take certain actions that they deem as potential hazards for children very seriously. 

If a parent has a history of being an aggressor in a domestic violence or sexual abuse case, a history of child abuse or neglect, or a history of substance abuse, then they are going to have to put together a strong case to win custody or even be granted visitation rights.

Additionally, if the parent has a criminal background, such as a DUI conviction, then they will have a much harder time proving that they are fit for custodial rights.

If you are a parent who has turned your life around and wish to have a second chance with your children, it is all the more important to hire a child custody lawyer to fight for your parental rights.Set up a free consultation with our experienced child custody lawyers at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri, located in San Jose.

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Michael Lonich

Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late – Plan Your Affairs Before Contracting Coronavirus

June 24, 2020/in Estate Planning /by Michael Lonich

Often, in our busy society, people don’t find time to put their affairs in order. They think “This can wait” or “I don’t have time today.” However, death is unpredictable. Especially in the current pandemic we are living in. Many people are finding themselves ill, with the symptoms coming on rapidly and without warning. In order to stop the spread of the disease, patients who are hospitalized with coronavirus are kept in isolation. This means that a family member or estate planning attorney can’t get through to put together a will or power of attorney. A power of attorney can appoint someone to make medical decisions for you in the case of your incapacitation (something that is very likely if you contract COVID-19). You need to get ahead of this before it becomes a problem. You want to make sure your affairs are in order in the unfortunate chance you catch coronavirus. 

Things to Consider

When finalizing your affairs, there are a few things you should put together before meeting with an attorney. You can, of course, put these together with an estate planning attorney if you need help, but if you can put these together yourself, you can speed up the process. 

  • List Out Your Assets – Make a list of all of your assets. This should include any real estate or properties you own, vehicles such as cars and boats, personal effects like jewelry and valuables, and life insurance policies or 401Ks or other bank accounts. This step may take some time, but make sure you are thorough. 
  • List Beneficiaries – Make a list of everyone you wish to leave something to. You do not have to determine who will receive what at this point in the process. Just having a list of those who you wish to leave something to will help when planning your affairs with your estate planning attorney. 
  • Take Care of Your Children – This is a step for you to dictate who will be the guardian of your children if you have them, and how you wish for them to be raised. While a judge does not have to follow these wishes, it is more likely if you have a firm plan set in place. Coronavirus doesn’t discriminate based on age. Many young parents are contracting the illness. Make sure you have the best interest of your kids in mind when creating a will or trust. 
  • Dictate Your POAs and Directives – There are many different kinds of power of attorney. Deciding who will make financial decisions, medical decisions or the power to sign documents on your behalf can all be laid out in an estate plan. 

Wills & Trusts

Many people who are planning for the end of their life are unsure about whether or not to create wills or trusts. An experienced attorney can help explain the difference between the two and can help determine which is best for your situation. Commonly, people use them in tandem with some assets being passed through trusts and others in the will. 

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Trusts are a popular way of avoiding probate. You can also dictate when the assets or funds in the trust can become available to the beneficiaries. There is even such a thing as a revocable living trust which allows you to revoke the trust while you’re alive. Wills do not have the exemption to probate but are often more practical for certain situations.

Take the first steps and start planning your affairs while you’re in good health. It’s better to be safe than sorry as we live through this deadly and unpredictable coronavirus. If you’re in the Bay Area, set up a free 30-minute virtual consultation with one of our estate planning attorneys. We’re experienced, and strive to make the difficult process of estate planning easier for our clients. You can set up your free virtual consultation here. 

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Riley Pennington

How COVID-19 is Affecting Family Law

June 10, 2020/in Family Law /by Riley Pennington

We’re living in a very uncertain time right now. Everything is unprecedented and everyone is handling COVID-19 differently. There are a few common practices being taken by local and state governments that we can lean on for stability. What does the Shelter-In-Place order mean for you and your family, and family law?

What Is A Shelter In Place Order?

Shelter in place orders are employed during or after a crisis to protect the population. These are usually issued locally which is why you are seeing orders with differing stipulations coming out of different states and counties. A shelter in place order requires residents to stay at home with the exception of essential travel and business.

Are Courts And Family Law Firms Considered Essential?

Many people who were facing legal trouble before the pandemic are now wondering how this will affect their cases. Courts and law firms are considered essential businesses, however, they are operating on a restricted basis. Only people who have hearings before the court will be allowed in the courthouses. Each county in the Bay Area has different regulations they are operating under. For Santa Clara, certain courts will remain open during the COVID-19 crisis, one being the Family Law Justice Center Courthouse. They are handling a restricted type of cases at this time. Some of those being:

  • Various restraining orders – Emergency protective orders, gun violence orders, domestic violence temporary orders
  • Child custody and visitation matters – ex parte requests, modifications due to child safety concerns, modifications due to parents withholding visitation
  • Guardianship with child safety concerns

You can learn more about the matters family law courts are handling here.

Temporary Emergency Rules

During coronavirus, the courts have enacted new emergency rules and revised existing ones to best serve the community. Emergency rule #8 was revised. It discusses the matter of extending protective and restraining orders. There is no longer an automatic extension of duration of orders during the pandemic. Now, the courts must provide persons a way to request renewals and extensions only. 

Emergency rule #13 deals with support requests and orders. This rule was created to ease the burden of requesting changes to child support, spousal or partner support, and family support orders during coronavirus. It is more challenging to file requests at this time, and the courts are having a hard time processing them. To deal with this, the courts are allowing service of unfiled requests.

For a list of all temporary emergency rules, go here. 

Government Aid and Back Child Support

The government is offering aid to the public in the form of a $1200 stimulus check. This is to offset the damage to the economy and the loss of jobs across the country. Family law matters are affecting the release of these funds. If a parent owes outstanding child support payments, they will see their funds reduced or will not be issued a stimulus check. 

To learn more about how family law in the Bay Area is affected by COVID-19, check out these resources here.  You can also set up a free virtual consultation with one of our family law attorneys to help you with any questions or cases you may have. You can set up a consultation here.

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Gretchen Boger

Child Custody, How SCCSC Judge Dealt with COVID-19 Rule

April 22, 2020/in Family Law, News /by Gretchen Boger
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