Divorce can be difficult on all parties concerned. When children are involved, it’s especially important to consider their well-being and take steps to mitigate the effects of the divorce on them. Of course, the impact of divorce on children can vary case by case, but the following are some common responses and issues you might face as well as strategies for supporting your children through them.

Emotional Sensitivity

Change is difficult for everyone, but children in particular may experience a range of emotions in response to changes in the family dynamic. Some amount of sadness is to be expected, but anger, anxiety, guilt, and confusion are also common emotional responses. 

Changes in Behavior

Depending on the age of the children and the circumstances of the divorce, children may exhibit new behavior like withdrawing, becoming defiant, or struggling academically. Some of the behavior may be a way for them to express their emotions or ask for attention.

Parentification

One specific behavior that children in divorce sometimes develop is taking on roles or responsibilities usually associated with adults, or parentification. They might feel as if they should take care of their parents financially, emotionally, physically, or in other ways, and may act accordingly.

Financial Strain

Especially in the early stages of divorce, finances can be an issue while the parents work through splitting up assets and deciding on child support, custody, and spousal support issues. Changes in living standards and housing might be difficult for the child, and decreased finances might limit extracurricular activities, vacations, and other luxuries.

Strategies to Support Children Affected by Divorce

Understanding some of the ways divorce might affect your children is the first step toward developing strategies to support them and mitigate negative effects. The following are a few strategies to consider:

• Keep the communication lines open – Be as honest and transparent as you can and allow your children to do the same. Try to have age-appropriate conversations about what is happening, and always reassure them that they are safe and loved.

• Do your best to focus on their practical needs – Prioritize meeting your child’s basic needs (e.g., housing, clothing, access to education and healthcare) and supporting them emotionally by listening. This supportive and nurturing environment will reduce their anxiety.

• Establish and maintain routines and strive for stability – During a time of transition and change, consistency and predictability will help your child feel secure. Try to set a regular schedule for meals, bed times, homework, and activities so your child knows what to expect and when. 

• Approach co-parenting positively – Work together with your former spouse to co-parent amicably, putting the best interests of your children first. Try to keep your interactions with your co-parent civil, and never involve your child in your own conflicts with your former partner.

• Model healthy self-care – Children learn best by example. When you seek out healthy ways to get the emotional support you need, such as starting a new hobby, developing a community, practicing mindfulness techniques, or attending therapy or counseling, they will know it’s ok to seek help and support when they need it.

Don’t go Through Divorce Alone

If you are considering divorce, you need a supportive team on your side. The family law attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri (LPEP Law) can help you and your family navigate this emotional time. Call us at (408) 553-0801 to schedule a free, 30-minute consultation to discuss your case. We can help.

Disclaimer: This article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

Family law deals with sensitive issues such as divorce, child custody, or spousal support. Navigating the legal complexities of these issues during an emotional time can be challenging. Board-certified family law specialists bring a unique set of skills and expertise that can significantly enhance your chances of a favorable outcome. 

Let’s examine how these legal experts can help you with your complex family law case.

Understanding Board Certification in Family Law

To receive board certification in family law, attorneys must undergo a rigorous process overseen by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization (CBLS). To achieve this certification, attorneys must demonstrate a high degree of experience, competence, and knowledge in family law. The CBLS requires the following:

• Passage of a written exam
• Having practiced law for a minimum of five years, with at least 25 percent of the time devoted to family law practice.
• Continuing education in family law beyond that required of general licensees of the California State Bar.
• A demonstration of broad-based and comprehensive experience in family law by completing a variety of matters pertaining to the family law area.
• Favorable peer reviews by other attorneys and judges in family law

While there are plenty of family law attorneys in California, due to the stringent requirements, not many of them are board-certified.

The Benefits of Having a Board-Certified Specialist in Family Law

Having a board-certified specialist assist you with your family law case benefits you in the following ways:

Expert Knowledge

A board-certified specialist has a deep understanding of the nuances of California family law. They are well-versed in the specific rules and court procedures, which can provide a significant advantage in complex cases.

Experience

Whether it’s a high-asset divorce, contentious custody battle, domestic violence, or complicated property division, board-certified attorneys have the expertise to navigate these issues effectively.

Strategic Guidance

Board-certified family law specialists can develop effective strategies for your specific circumstances. They know how to apply their knowledge of the law to your advantage, whether in negotiations, mediation, or litigation.

Professional Recognition

To achieve board certification means the State Bar of California recognizes the attorney’s superior skills and ethical standards. You can be assured you are getting an attorney highly regarded by their peers.

By hiring a board-certified family law specialist, you can have the peace of mind of knowing that your case is in the hands of a professional with the skills and knowledge to handle it effectively.

Speak With a Board Certified Family Law Specialist at LPEP Law

Family law matters are often emotionally charged and legally complex. Working with one of our board-certified specialists at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can maximize your chances of achieving a favorable outcome. We have worked with families on complex family law issues for over two decades. Our knowledge, experience, and assurance of quality make us invaluable allies in California’s family courts. Whatever family law issue you are facing, our attorneys can help.

Contact us for a free consultation by calling (408) 553-0801 to talk to a board-certified family law specialist who can provide the expertise and guidance you need.

Disclaimer: This article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.