• Facebook
  • Youtube
  • Linkedin
  • Twitter
  • Instagram
  • Vk
Call Us At: (408) 553-0801
Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri
  • Home
  • About
    • Why LPEP
    • Our Attorneys
    • Locations
      • San Jose
      • Santa Cruz
      • San Francisco
    • Testimonials
  • LPEP Spotlight
  • Practice Areas
    • Family Law
      • Annulments
      • Certified Family Law Specialists
      • Child Custody and Visitation
      • Child Support
      • Divorce and Your Estate
      • Divorce Litigation
      • Divorce Planning
      • Domestic Partnerships
      • Domestic Violence
      • Enforcement and Modifications
      • Extramarital Affairs
      • Grandparents’ Rights
      • Harassment
      • Legal Separation
      • Mediation and Collaborative Divorce
      • Parental Relocations
      • Paternity
      • Postnuptial Agreements
      • Prenuptial Agreements
      • Property Division
      • Restraining Orders
      • Same Sex Divorce
      • Spousal Support and Alimony
    • Estate Planning
      • Business Succession Planning
      • Power of Attorney
      • Probate
      • Trust Administration
      • Trust and Probate Litigation
      • Trusts
      • Wills
    • Family Law Mediation
  • FAQ
    • Estate Planning FAQ
    • Family Law FAQ
  • Blog
  • Pay Now
  • Resources
    • Family Law Resources
    • Family Law Terms
    • Estate Planning Resources
  • Contact Us
    • Careers
  • Get a Free Consultation
  • Menu

Blog

Blog

A tug-of-war image symbolizing sibling rivalry, emphasizing challenges in fair inheritance distribution and estate planning.
Michael Lonich

Sibling Rivalry and Inheritance: Navigating Fair Distribution in Estate Plans

December 31, 2024/in Estate Planning /by Michael Lonich

Money can be a touchy issue, especially among close family members. According to an Ameriprise study, when siblings argue about finances, it’s usually about how an inheritance gets divided up and whether parents are being fair to each child when it comes to financial support. Fair distribution of assets in estate planning can be complicated, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. The following are a few tips and strategies to help you navigate this process with your family.

Maintain Open Lines of Communication

While many people are uncomfortable talking about money, avoiding the discussion will only make things more difficult in the long run. Encourage family discussions about inheritance preferences (especially about sentimental objects like family heirlooms, jewelry, etc.) while everyone is still alive.

It’s best to set specific times for these discussions. Don’t try to have a serious conversation about estate plans at a holiday gathering. Even though everyone is together, the focus of holidays and special events should be about fun and togetherness.

Open lines of communication will hopefully promote transparency and help address potential grievances before they become a problem.

Decide Between Equal or Equitable Distribution

In many cases, equal distribution among siblings makes sense. However, it’s important to consider the individual circumstances of each child. If one sibling has been more involved in caregiving, for instance, it might be more fair to increase their share of the inheritance. Or, if one child is struggling financially, has special needs, or will require more financial help in the future, you might choose equitable distribution of your assets, rather than equal distribution. Clearly communicating this distinction to your children is important and might help protect against conflicts and hurt feelings.

An image of people stacking coins symbolizing financial discussions, with a focus on sibling dynamics and inheritance disputes.

Involve a Neutral Third Party

Many families find it helpful to hire a mediator or estate planning expert to facilitate difficult and sensitive discussions and establish a plan that is in everyone’s best interests. Siblings might be more willing to be honest with a neutral third party and feel more comfortable with this type of formal discussion and setting.

Consider Using Trusts as Tools

Setting up trusts or college funds is another way that you can thoughtfully provide for your children while also controlling the distribution of funds, protecting the assets from potential disputes, and minimizing conflict. 

Other Considerations to Avoid Conflict

Other things to think about when estate planning that might smooth out the process and head off sibling rivalry before it begins:

  • Document everything – clearly outlining your wishes in your estate plan, including your rationale for how you’ve distributed assets, can reduce misunderstandings.
  • Update regularly – be sure to review and update your estate plan as necessary to reflect current realities, especially if one child has a significant life change.
  • Encourage good relationships  – promote positive interactions and relationships among siblings. Family activities, shared vacations, and even therapy might minimize sibling rivalry.
  • Prepare for conflict – acknowledge that disagreements may still arise and have a plan for how to handle disputes, including mediation.

Our Estate Planning Group Has Been Helping Families Like Yours Since 1994

When it comes to protecting your family’s future, the estate planning attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can help you have the difficult but important conversations you need to have and go over all your estate plan options so you can make informed decisions. Call us today to set up a free consultation.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/bigstock-Tug-Of-War-1808559.jpg 600 900 Michael Lonich https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/LPEP_PC.png Michael Lonich2024-12-31 15:54:532024-12-31 15:54:53Sibling Rivalry and Inheritance: Navigating Fair Distribution in Estate Plans
A military father in uniform embraces his smiling family at home, illustrating the intersection of military life and family law challenges.
Virginia Lively

Military Family Matters: What Legal Considerations Are Important?

December 26, 2024/in Family Law /by Virginia Lively

Military families face unique challenges that require thoughtful legal planning. From deployment to relocation and the complexities of military benefits, it’s essential to understand the legal considerations that can protect and support service members and their loved ones.

Understanding Military-Specific Legal Protections

Service member’s families benefit from several legal protections designed to safeguard their rights during service. Two critical areas to consider are employment and housing.

The Servicemembers Civil Relief Act (SCRA) for Military Families

The SCRA provides active-duty military members with protections against financial and legal burdens, such as:

  • Postponing civil court proceedings
  • Capping interest rates on loans and credit cards
  • Protecting against eviction during service

Understanding these rights is crucial for preventing undue financial or legal stress during deployments or other service commitments.

Uniformed Services Employment and Reemployment Rights Act (USERRA)

USERRA ensures job protection for service members when they return from active duty. Employers are legally required to reinstate returning service members to their jobs and provide reasonable accommodations.

Addressing Family Law Issues in Military Life

Family law issues can become complicated for service member families due to frequent relocations, deployments, and state law variations.

Custody and Parenting Plans for Military Families 

Deployments and relocations often impact child custody arrangements. Military families should draft custody agreements that account for:

  • Deployment schedules
  • Relocation possibilities
  • Virtual visitation during periods of separation

Working with an attorney experienced in service member family law can help create a plan that prioritizes the child’s best interests.

Divorce and Spousal Support for Military Families

Divorce in a service member’s family involves unique considerations, such as the division of military pensions and determining eligibility for continued healthcare benefits. Understanding these nuances ensures fair outcomes for both parties.

A military father and young son share a tender moment outdoors, symbolizing the family dynamics and legal considerations tied to military life.

Estate Planning for Military Families

Estate planning is essential for service member families to secure their financial future and provide peace of mind.

Powers of Attorney and Wills for Military Families 

Service member members should designate a trusted individual to make legal and financial decisions through a power of attorney. Additionally, drafting a will ensures assets are distributed according to their wishes.

Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP)

The SBP provides financial security for surviving family members. Service members should review and update their SBP elections regularly, especially after major life changes like marriage, divorce, or the birth of a child.

Navigating Military Benefits

Understanding and maximizing military benefits can significantly impact a family’s financial stability.

TRICARE and Healthcare Benefits

TRICARE provides healthcare coverage to service member families. Familiarizing yourself with coverage options, eligibility, and enrollment periods is crucial to maintaining uninterrupted healthcare access.

GI Bill and Education Benefits

The Post-9/11 GI Bill allows service members to transfer unused education benefits to spouses or children. Planning how to utilize these benefits can support the family’s educational goals.

Proactive Legal Planning Is Key: Contact LPEP to Discuss Military Family Matters

Military life is demanding, but proactive legal planning can alleviate stress and protect the well-being of service members and their families. By understanding their rights and benefits, addressing family law issues, and investing in estate planning, service member families can navigate their unique challenges with confidence. 

Consulting with a legal professional familiar with service member issues can provide tailored guidance to meet your family’s needs. At LPEP, our expert attorneys specialize in family law and estate planning. With vast experience in military legal matters, we’ll ensure you and your family are protected and supported in every way possible. 

Contact us today to schedule your free consultation.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/bigstock-Family-Welcoming-Husband-Home-43941793.jpg 600 900 Virginia Lively https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/LPEP_PC.png Virginia Lively2024-12-26 18:28:302024-12-26 18:28:30Military Family Matters: What Legal Considerations Are Important?
A close-up of wedding rings resting on a reflective surface, symbolizing commitment and unity, perfect for newlyweds planning their future.
Michael Lonich

Newlyweds’ Financial Fitness: Estate Planning Tips

December 20, 2024/in Estate Planning /by Michael Lonich

Starting a new chapter as newlyweds is exciting, but it also comes with new responsibilities, especially when it comes to financial planning. One crucial yet often overlooked aspect is estate planning. 

Creating an estate plan not only protects your assets but also ensures that your spouse is taken care of should the unexpected happen. Here are some essential estate planning tips for newlyweds to help safeguard your financial future.

1. Create or Update Your Will

A will is an essential estate planning document that outlines how your assets will be allocated after you pass away. As newlyweds, you may want to leave your assets to your spouse or other family members, but without a will, state laws will determine how your estate is divided, which may not align with your wishes.

Steps to Take

  • Draft a new will: If you’ve never created a will before, now is the time to do so.
  • Update existing wills: If you already have a will, update it to reflect your new marital status and any joint assets you may have acquired.
  • Name an executor: Choose someone you trust to ensure your wishes are carried out as outlined in your will.

2. Designate Beneficiaries

Your will doesn’t govern all of your assets. Some accounts, such as life insurance policies and retirement accounts (401(k), IRA), pass directly to the beneficiaries named on those accounts. As newlyweds, it’s essential to update these designations to ensure your spouse is the primary beneficiary.

Key Accounts to Update

  • Life insurance policies
  • Retirement accounts
  • Pension plans
  • Payable-on-death (POD) or transfer-on-death (TOD) bank accounts

By keeping these beneficiary designations current, you avoid potential delays or disputes in asset distribution.

A joyful young couple celebrating a victory, symbolizing the excitement and achievements of newlyweds starting their journey together.

3. Establish Joint Ownership of Assets

Many newlyweds combine their finances, and joint ownership of assets can simplify estate planning. Consider holding major assets like homes, vehicles, and bank accounts in joint tenancy with rights of survivorship. This ensures that if one spouse passes away, the other automatically inherits the asset without it going through probate.

Benefits of Joint Ownership

Assets held jointly can transfer directly to the surviving spouse without the lengthy probate process. It also makes managing and accessing your shared assets much easier during your marriage.

4. Set Up a Power of Attorney

A financial power of attorney allows your spouse (or another trusted person) to manage your financial affairs if you become incapacitated. Without this in place, your spouse may face legal hurdles to access your finances or pay bills on your behalf.

Medical Power of Attorney

Similarly, a medical power of attorney gives your spouse the authority to make healthcare decisions if you’re unable to do so. It ensures that your spouse can make critical decisions about your care during emergencies.

5. Consider a Living Trust

A living trust allows you to transfer assets to a trustee to manage for your benefit during your lifetime and for your beneficiaries after your death. It offers more control over asset distribution and can avoid the probate process altogether. Newlyweds with significant assets or complex financial situations might find that a living trust adds a layer of protection and flexibility.

Just Married? Start Estate Planning With LPEP!

Estate planning might not be the most romantic task on your newlywed to-do list, but it’s one of the most important. At LPEP, our experienced estate planning attorneys specialize in the preparation of estate planning documents, such as wills, revocable living trusts, and more.

Financial fitness for newlyweds isn’t just about managing day-to-day expenses; it’s about securing your future together. Contact LPEP to set up your free consultation. 

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/bigstock-Marriage-Marriage-Marry-Ring-R-93947966.jpg 584 900 Michael Lonich https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/LPEP_PC.png Michael Lonich2024-12-20 00:55:422024-12-20 00:55:42Newlyweds' Financial Fitness: Estate Planning Tips
Happy young family outdoors with their adopted African American son, showcasing the beauty of love and connection in international adoption.
Mitchell Ehrlich

How to Navigate International Adoption Legalities

December 12, 2024/in Family Law /by Mitchell Ehrlich

Very few things match the joy of welcoming a new child to your family. Raising children allows us to rediscover the world through their eyes, share our values, and provide them with a home and loving, supportive parents. Some families choose to adopt through an international agency. They may have several reasons for their decision, such as a close connection with the adoptee’s country, a desire to raise a child from a different culture, or a desire to give a child from a disadvantaged area a chance for a better life.

However, international adoptions involve significant paperwork and legal requirements in both the United States and the foreign country. Understanding and preparing for the legalities of an international adoption can help ensure a smoother process.

The Hague Adoption Convention

Established in 1993, the Hague Adoption Convention is an international treaty among 104 countries, including the United States. Its goal is to ensure that intercountry adoptions prioritize the best interests of the child and prevent the abduction and trafficking of children.

The convention emphasizes the child’s best interests and states that foreign adoption should only be considered if there are no suitable families in the child’s home country. It also requires adoption agencies to be accredited and follow rigorous requirements to prevent unethical practices.

Who Oversees the International Adoption Process in the United States?

The Department of State is the central authority for international adoptions. Any adoption service provider needs to be approved by a Department-accredited entity (AE). There are only two AEs: the Intercountry Adoption Accreditation and Maintenance Entity (IAAME) and the Center for Excellence in Adoption Services (CEAS).

The U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) is responsible for determining whether potential adoptive parents are suitable and eligible to adopt a child and whether the child is eligible to travel to the United States.

Top view of a judge's gavel beside a family icon, symbolizing international adoption, family law, and the legalities of family rights.

Every Country Has Its Own Laws 

The first step in the international adoption process is selecting the country you want to adopt from. Since each country has different eligibility criteria and adoption laws, you will want to thoroughly research everything involved in the adoption process.

In addition to the U.S. legal requirements for bringing a child into the States, the country of origin has its own regulations and procedures, such as age, income, marital status, and the parents’ health. For example, some countries won’t allow same-sex couples to adopt. 

It’s also imperative to keep abreast of changing laws regarding international adoptions. As of August 28, 2024, China has halted all foreign adoptions.

Documentation

The Department of State and USCIS require several legal forms. Prospective parents also need to have an approved home study, proof of U.S. citizenship, proof of marital status, medical records, birth certificates, and financial statements. 

The adoption process will be prolonged and more costly without the necessary legal documents.

LPEP Law Can Help

If you are considering adopting a child from a foreign country, you should work with an attorney who can ensure your documentation is complete. Our attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can assist you in navigating the legalities and bureaucratic obstacles. 

We will ensure you clearly understand each step in the international adoption process. Once you are back home with your child, our attorneys will help you complete the necessary steps to legalize the adoption in the United States.

Contact us for a free consultation on the international adoption process by calling (408) 553-0801.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/bigstock-Young-family-with-adopted-Afri-206148847.jpg 600 900 Mitchell Ehrlich https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/LPEP_PC.png Mitchell Ehrlich2024-12-12 22:47:542024-12-12 22:48:34How to Navigate International Adoption Legalities
Happy young couple envisioning a prosperous future and enjoying the journey of life together.
Michael Lonich

The Importance of Updating Your Estate Plan After Major Life Events

December 5, 2024/in Estate Planning /by Michael Lonich

The Greek philosopher Heraclitus is credited with the quote, “The only constant in life is change.” We experience new things every day. While some are small and seemingly insignificant, others completely redefine our lives.

At some point, you may have created an estate plan. After it was complete, you likely put it in a safe place, and that is where it’s remained. 

However, you need to ask yourself: Is your estate plan still relevant in the face of your current circumstances? 

Have You Experienced Significant Life Changes?

Life is made up of milestones, and your estate plan should evolve to reflect those changes. Here are some events that should trigger a review:

1. Marriage or Divorce

The beginning or ending of a marriage can impact your estate plan. As a newlywed, you will want to add your spouse as a beneficiary on any life insurance policies and investment accounts. You will also need to review your will to ensure they are included or name them as power of attorney.

If you and your spouse divorce, you will want to remove them from your will and as a beneficiary. You should take their name off of any legal documents that allow them to make any decisions on your behalf if you become incapacitated.

2. The Addition of a New Family Member

Welcoming a new child into the family is a time for joy and celebration. You will want to ensure your little one is provided for if anything should happen to you. Therefore, your estate plan needs to be updated with the appointment of a guardian and the setting up of a trust to take care of their financial needs.

3. Death

If someone listed in your will as a beneficiary or executor passes away, you must update your estate plan.

4. Financial Changes

Suppose your assets significantly increase or decrease, such as receiving an inheritance, buying or selling a business, or winning the lottery. In that case, those changes need to be reflected in your estate plan. 

External Events That Impact Your Estate Plan

Even if your life remains the same, there are outside factors that may require you to update your estate plan, such as:

  • Changes in tax laws
  • Economic conditions
  • Legal reforms
  • Politics

Key estate planning documents include a **Living Trust**, **Living Will**, and **Healthcare Power of Attorney**. These tools ensure your assets and healthcare decisions are managed in line with your wishes throughout your life and beyond.

The Consequences of an Outdated Estate Plan

If you’ve never updated your estate plan, your assets may be distributed to outdated beneficiaries, such as an ex-spouse. Loved ones that you intended to add to your policies may find themselves involved in family disputes and legal battles.

Furthermore, by failing to update your estate plan, you may have missed opportunities to take advantage of new laws or strategies that would have left more money to your heirs.

Set up Regular Reviews with LPEP Law

Unless you experience a significant life event that requires immediate changes to your estate plan, you should review it every three to five years. This ensures that your legal documents are a reflection of your current life circumstances and goals. Our attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can work with you to review the following:

  • Beneficiary designations
  • Guardianship
  • Power of attorney and healthcare proxy
  • Trusts

We will also discuss any new regulations or tax laws that may have an impact on your estate. You will have peace of mind knowing that your loved ones will be protected and provided for according to your wishes.

Contact us for a free consultation by calling (408) 553-0801.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/bigstock-Young-happy-couple-86208845.jpg 630 900 Michael Lonich https://www.lpeplaw.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/LPEP_PC.png Michael Lonich2024-12-05 22:16:502024-12-05 22:16:50The Importance of Updating Your Estate Plan After Major Life Events
Page 8 of 113«‹678910›»
Learn more about estate planning with a free resource
Read all about family law and child custody
Learn more about family law matters such as private divorce counseling.

Categories

  • 2021
  • 2022
  • 2023
  • 2024
  • 2025
  • Business Law
  • Estate Planning
  • Family Law
  • Firm News
  • In the Community
  • News
  • Personal
  • Probate
  • Spotlight

Posts From The Past 12 Months

  • September 2025
  • August 2025
  • July 2025
  • June 2025
  • May 2025
  • April 2025
  • March 2025
  • February 2025
  • January 2025
  • December 2024
  • November 2024
  • October 2024

Explore Our Archives

Free 30-Minute Family Law or Estate Planning Consultation

6 + 2 = ?

Contact Us

LONICH PATTON EHRLICH POLICASTRI

1871 The Alameda, Suite 400, San Jose, CA 95126
Phone: (408) 553-0801 | Fax: (408) 553-0807 | Email: contact@lpeplaw.com

LONICH PATTON EHRLICH POLICASTRI

Phone: (408) 553-0801
Fax: (408) 553-0807
Email: contact@lpeplaw.com

1871 The Alameda, Suite 400
San Jose, CA 95126

Located in San Jose, Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri handles matters for clients in northern California, specifically San Jose and Silicon Valley. Our services are available to anyone within the following counties: Santa Clara, San Mateo, Contra Costa, Santa Cruz, Monterey, San Benito, and San Francisco. For a full listing of areas where we practice, please click here.

MAKE A PAYMENT BY SCANNING THE QR CODE BELOW:

DISCLAIMER

This web site is intended for informational purposes only and is not legal advice. Nothing in the site is to be considered as either creating an attorney-client relationship between the reader and Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri or as rendering of legal advice for any specific matter. Readers are responsible for obtaining such advice from their own legal counsel. No client or other reader should act or refrain from acting on the basis of any information contained in Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri Web site without seeking appropriate legal or other professional advice on the particular facts and circumstances at issue.

About | Why LPEP | Contact | Blog

© 2024 Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri. All rights reserved. Privacy Policy

Scroll to top

LPEP COVID-19 Office Protocol