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What To Know About Financial Affidavits

June 18, 2025/in Family Law /by Virginia Lively

Financial affidavits play a significant role in a variety of legal proceedings, such as divorce, child custody, and financial support. It’s a legal document that provides an in-depth look at an individual’s income, expenses, assets, and liabilities.

Why are financial affidavits so crucial, what needs to be included, and how can you ensure yours is accurate?

Let’s get started.

When Do You Need a Financial Affidavit?

Divorce proceedings are one of the most common scenarios requiring a financial affidavit. California’s community property laws require marital assets to be divided equally while each party retains their separate assets they had at the start of the marriage.

Still, dividing the assets and determining each person’s financial responsibilities can be challenging. With a financial affidavit, the court is better able to assess each person’s financial position and make decisions regarding the division of assets and debts and spousal support. 

The court can also ensure the child’s financial needs are met with support payments.

In addition to family law cases, financial affidavits may be required for large loans and mortgages so the lender can determine your ability to repay the loan. They can also be used to settle other legal matters, such as probate or the dissolution of a business partnership.

What Information Is Included in a Financial Affidavit?

California’s Income and Expense Declaration is very detailed and broken down into sections:

Income

In addition to your employer, education, and tax filing information, you must disclose all forms of income you receive, including wages (minus deductions), commissions, rental income, government assistance, and investments. You must also provide two months’ worth of paystubs and proof of other income.

Assets

This portion lists what you own, such as bank accounts, real estate, retirement investments, vehicles, and other assets you could easily sell minus the amount still owed.

Expenses

The form will ask you to list the people who live with you and if they are contributing financially to the household expenses. This section also wants details about your current financial obligations, like housing, utilities, and food. It also wants you to list your discretionary spending on entertainment and vacations.

Liabilities

Other financial obligations, such as car loans, student loans, and credit card payments, also need to be included so the court can have a comprehensive view of your financial situation. 

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The Importance of Transparency and Accuracy

Your financial affidavit is a legal document. Therefore, it’s vital that you present a truthful picture of your financial health. Avoid guessing at your numbers. Double-check and verify the information you entered and have your supporting documents ready.

If the court finds any discrepancies or omissions, it could harm your credibility, delay court proceedings, and result in legal consequences. Transparent and honest records pave the way for a fair resolution.

Let LPEP Law Help

Considering how crucial the financial affidavit is to your divorce proceedings, you don’t want to leave anything to chance. Our lawyers at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can work with you to ensure your affidavit is complete and gives an accurate, in-depth picture of your finances and supporting documentation. Doing it on your own can be stressful. By letting us handle the details, you can know that our experienced professionals are working to protect your interests.

Contact us at (408) 553-0801 for a free consultation. 

 

Disclaimer: This article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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New Legislation on Family Leave: Implications for Custody and Support Agreements

June 4, 2025/in Family Law /by Mitchell Ehrlich

Divorce is hard. Trying to negotiate and balance child custody agreements or determine child support can add stress to an already emotionally draining situation. Laws regulating family leave aim to protect families by providing a framework to allow individuals to take time off when they need it to care for children or other family members without the threat of losing their job and income. In this article, we’ll look at family leave and some of the implications for custody and support agreements.

State vs Federal Laws

Under the federal Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA), qualified employees are entitled to take up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave within a 12-month timeframe for specific medical or family-related reasons. While there have been proposals to broaden the scope of the FMLA, its current provisions remain limited. Parents may only take leave to bond with a newborn, newly adopted, or foster child, or to care for a child facing a serious health issue.

For those not eligible for the FMLA, you might find some relief through state-specific policies on family leave, although these vary greatly from state to state. Several states have enacted mandatory or voluntary paid family leave laws, which lessen the financial burden on parents who need to take time off to care for children. Even if your state does not yet have policies in place, it’s a good idea to keep checking because family law is a dynamic field, and changes could impact custody and child support agreements.

Impact on Custody Agreement

Whatever family leave policies are in place with your employer could affect your capacity for physical custody or availability for a visitation schedule. If you are able to take extended time off, or if your work schedule can be more flexible, you might be able to ask for joint custody or a more favorable visitation schedule (i.e., not limited to weekends).

Some state family leave legislation also provides for gender-neutral leave policies, which means that both parents can take time off as needed, which opens the door for a more balanced and equitable custody arrangement and visitation schedule.

If you already have a custody agreement in place, you might need to provide proof from your employer that you will be able to take leave to care for your child before any adjustments will be made.

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Impact on Child Support

Courts often calculate child support agreements based on parents’ income, so agreements might need to be modified in light of family leave, especially if it is for an extended time. Paid family leave, where available, can reduce the financial strain on parents and make it easier to meet child support obligations. However, if family leave is unpaid, a parent’s income might be reduced, which could then reduce child support obligations, at least while the parent is on leave.

Family Law Experts in California

If you live in California and have questions about state family leave legislation and how it might affect your custody or child support agreements, it’s best to speak with certified family law specialists who are committed to staying on the cutting-edge of important legal developments in family law. The family law group at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri (LPEP Law) has extensive experience in helping clients navigate the family court system and will work toward the best outcome for you and your family.

Call LPEP Law at 408-553-0801 to schedule a free, no-obligation consultation to discuss your custody and child support issues. Get the help you need today.

 

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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The Effect of Rising Inflation on Alimony and Child Support Calculations

May 21, 2025/in Family Law /by Gretchen Boger

The last half decade has been marked by unprecedented events, including a global pandemic followed by the highest rate of inflation seen in 40 years. We are starting to see some prices decrease as inflation cools, but we still haven’t reached pre-pandemic levels. It’s likely we never will, as the cost of goods is affected by other forces.

Rising costs are felt everywhere. Alimony and child support payments that once seemed reasonable may now feel inadequate. How does inflation impact alimony and child support calculations? Do payments automatically increase, or does one of the parties need to request a modification in payment amounts?

The Cost of Living 

The cost of raising a child has substantially increased over the past few years. In 2019, it cost an estimated $233,610 to raise a child from birth to age 18, not including college expenses. In 2025, that estimate increased by over 60% to $375,000.

Families are seeing higher prices in more places than the grocery store. The price of housing, utilities, child care, healthcare, clothing, extracurricular activities, and private school tuition have risen dramatically. 

Inflation erodes the purchasing power of alimony and child support payments. When payments aren’t keeping up with rising costs, families risk falling below the poverty line, the very thing those payments are meant to prevent.

California’s Guidelines on Alimony and Child Support

California’s courts oversee spousal support, also known as alimony, and child support as outlined in the California Family Code. Alimony provides support to a spouse after a divorce or separation so both parties can maintain a standard of living close to the one they had during the marriage. It’s not uncommon for one spouse to experience financial hardship after a divorce, and alimony aims to address that imbalance.

Child support ensures that both parents are contributing financially to their children’s upbringing after the divorce. If the child resides primarily with one parent, the other parent may be expected to pay more towards their support.

However, neither alimony nor child support payments adjust automatically to keep up with increases in the cost-of-living unless the judge includes a cost-of-living adjustment (COLA) clause in the court orders. COLAs will automatically increase the payments to keep pace with inflation.

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Modification Requests

California courts allow requests for modification of alimony and child support payments. Requesting a modification requires proof of a significant change in circumstances. Typically, modification requests are associated with changes in income, the needs of the child, or parenting time. 

Rising inflation can also qualify as a significant change. If the alimony or child support orders don’t have a COLA clause, either party can petition the court and request a modification hearing. 

LPEP Law Can Help

Inflation affects everyone, but when alimony and child support payments aren’t keeping up with rising costs, it can cause financial insecurity. Fortunately, there are legal options available. Our attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can help you petition the court for modification. We will guide you through the process and ensure you have the necessary documentation to support your request. With our assistance, your request for payment modification is more likely to be successful.

Contact us at (408) 553-0801 to schedule a free consultation. 

Disclaimer: This article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Remote Work and Parenting Plans: How Virtual Employment is Changing Custody Agreements

May 7, 2025/in Family Law /by Gina Policastri

The shift to remote work has changed many aspects of daily life, including child custody agreements. For divorced or separated parents, virtual employment provides new opportunities for flexible parenting plans, but also introduces unique challenges. Let’s take a look at how custody agreements have changed in the era of remote and hybrid work.

Increased Flexibility for Parenting Time

One of the biggest advantages of remote work is flexibility. Parents who work from home often have more control over their schedules, allowing them to be more involved in their child’s daily routine. This can mean:

  • More opportunities for shared custody or equal parenting time
  • Easier adjustments to schedules when children are sick or have school events
  • The ability to care for younger children without relying on daycare

For some families, this flexibility allows for co-parenting arrangements that would not have been possible with a traditional in-office job.

Modifying Existing Custody Agreements Due to Remote Work

If one or both parents now work remotely, they may need to modify their custody agreement to reflect this change. Some factors that courts consider when modifying agreements include:

  • Whether a parent’s work-from-home schedule allows them to provide proper supervision
  • The stability and consistency of the child’s routine
  • The ability of both parents to communicate and collaborate effectively

California courts prioritize the best interests of the child when reviewing custody modifications. If remote work enables a parent to take on more parenting responsibilities, they may have a stronger case for increased custody time.

Challenges of Remote Work and Co-Parenting

While remote work can offer flexibility, it also presents challenges for co-parenting.

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Disruptions During Work Hours

Working from home does not always mean a parent is available to care for their child. Video meetings, deadlines, and work commitments can make it difficult to balance parenting duties. If one parent argues that the other is not able to provide full supervision during work hours, this could lead to disputes over custody arrangements.

Relocation and Virtual Visitation in Custody Agreements

Remote work allows some parents to move to new cities or states while keeping their jobs. If a parent wants to relocate, the custody agreement may need to be revised to account for:

  • Long-distance parenting schedules
  • Virtual visitation arrangements using video calls
  • Travel costs and responsibilities for in-person visits

California law requires parents to seek court approval for major relocations that impact custody arrangements. The court will consider whether the move is in the best interest of the child and how it affects the co-parenting relationship.

Contact Us for Legal Guidance on Custody Modifications

If you are a parent navigating custody changes due to remote work, our family law attorneys can help. An LPEP lawyer can:

  • Assess whether your custody agreement needs modification
  • Help negotiate a fair parenting plan
  • Represent you in court if necessary

As remote work continues to shape family life, we understand that custody agreements must adapt to meet the needs of both parents and children. If you have questions about custody modifications or need to make changes to your current arrangement, contact LPEP to schedule a free consultation with one of our family law experts.

Disclaimer: This article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Why Is It Important to Have a Family Lawyer?

April 23, 2025/in Family Law /by Virginia Lively

Family matters can be complex, emotional, and legally challenging. Whether you’re going through a divorce, dealing with child custody issues, or planning your estate, having a family lawyer can make a significant difference. A knowledgeable legal professional ensures your rights are protected and helps you navigate difficult situations with clarity and confidence.

Why You Need a Family Lawyer

A family lawyer specializes in legal issues related to family relationships. They handle cases such as divorce, child custody, alimony, adoption, and estate planning. Their expertise ensures that you understand your rights and responsibilities while providing legal strategies tailored to your situation.

1. Legal Expertise in Family Matters

Family law is a specialized field that involves various legal procedures and regulations. A family lawyer:

  • Provides accurate legal advice based on your specific case.
  • Ensures that all paperwork is filed correctly and on time.
  • Represents you in court or negotiations to secure the best outcome.

Without legal guidance, you might make mistakes that could impact your future and that of your loved ones.

2. Family Lawyers for Divorce and Separation

Divorce can be emotionally draining and legally complicated. A family lawyer can:

  • Help with fair division of assets and debts.
  • Negotiate child custody and visitation rights.
  • Ensure proper spousal and child support arrangements.

Having legal representation ensures that your rights and interests are protected during this life-changing process.

3. Child Custody and Support

When children are involved, custody and support become critical issues. A family lawyer will:

  • Advocate for the best interests of the child.
  • Ensure fair child support agreements are in place.
  • Mediate and negotiate custody disputes to avoid prolonged court battles.

Their expertise can help minimize conflict and create a stable environment for your child.

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4. Adoption and Guardianship with Family Lawyers

Adopting a child is a joyful occasion but involves many legal procedures. A family lawyer can:

  • Guide you through adoption laws and requirements.
  • Help with home studies and background checks.
  • Ensure all paperwork is properly filed and processed.

Similarly, in cases where guardianship is needed, a lawyer ensures that the process is legally sound and beneficial for the child.

5. Estate Planning and Wills

Planning for the future is essential to protect your family. A family lawyer can assist with:

  • Drafting wills and trusts to ensure your assets are distributed as you wish.
  • Establishing power of attorney in case you become incapacitated.
  • Avoiding legal disputes over your estate after your passing.

Proper estate planning prevents confusion and potential conflicts among family members.

6. Domestic Violence and Protection Orders

If you’re facing domestic violence, a family lawyer can help by:

  • Obtaining restraining orders to protect you and your children.
  • Representing you in court hearings for safety measures.
  • Providing legal options to secure your rights and well-being.

Having legal support is crucial in these difficult situations.

Set Up Your Family Law Consultation Today With LPEP

The Family Law team at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri is among the most established family law practices in the Bay Area. Whether you are facing a divorce, custody battle, adoption, or estate planning, having a trusted legal professional by your side ensures that you navigate these challenges with the best possible outcome.

Contact LPEP today to set up your free family law consultation.

 

Disclaimer: This article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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How Can an Order of Protection be Reversed in California?

April 9, 2025/in Family Law /by Mitchell Ehrlich

Protective orders can be requested by a police officer (Emergency Protective Order), a judge (Criminal Protective Order), a victim of domestic abuse, stalking, harassment, etc. (restraining order), or in some cases of divorce to protect assets (Automatic Temporary Restraining Order). If you have an order of protection against you in the state of California, you have the option to request modifications or dissolution to that order if you so choose. Usually, you will need to present evidence in court to support your request. The following guide outlines the steps you need to take.

File a Request to Modify or Dissolve

If you want to change any of the terms of an existing order of protection (e.g., modifying parental visitation rights) or if you want the court to dissolve or dismiss the order completely, you would file a request with the court. Once you have filed your request, the court will schedule a hearing to provide you the opportunity to present evidence to support your request. 

Provide Supporting Evidence

As with any other court case, you will need to gather and provide evidence supporting the need for a modification or dismissal of your order of protection. Witness statements, financial documents, texts, emails, doctor’s notes, etc. can all be used to show that circumstances have changed and the relationship has improved to the point where protection is no longer needed.

Attend the Hearing

It is very important to attend the hearing and provide your evidence to the judge in person. Both sides involved in the order of protection should be present. Based on the evidence, the judge will:

  • Modify the terms of the order as requested
  • Dismiss the order, which effectively reverses, dissolves, or lifts it, or
  • Deny the request, if the court finds that the order is still necessary for safety or other reasons

If your request is denied, you may choose to appeal the decision, however, the appeals process can be complicated, time-consuming, and expensive.

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Other Considerations

The family court will always prioritize the safety of the protected party when considering a request to modify or reverse an order of protection. Orders of protection only remain valid for a set amount of time (as little as a few weeks to as much as five years), but the protected party can request that the order of protection be extended as necessary. On the other hand, in some cases, the court might agree to end or modify the order earlier than the stated time frame, if the evidence supports it.

Consult With Family Law Experts for Help

Family law can be complicated, but you don’t have to do it alone. If you are considering requesting a change to, or reversal of, a current order or protection, get a free consultation from the family law attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri (LPEP Law). We have decades of experience helping our clients navigate the California family law court system, including working with restraining orders of all kinds. Let us help protect your rights. 

 

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Child Custody and Relocation: Navigating the Legal Landscape

March 26, 2025/in Family Law /by Gretchen Boger

People move for many reasons – a new job, getting married or remarried, to be closer to family, access to better education or employment opportunities, wanting a change of scenery or climate, etc. If you’re planning to move but have a child custody agreement in place, however, you will need to consider some additional steps to protect both your child’s best interests and your custodial or visitation rights. Although the laws governing child custody and relocation vary, especially when it comes to international relocations, thinking about the guidelines outlined below is a good place to start.

Understanding Child Custody Agreements

Child custody agreements generally provide guidance about where the child will live (physical custody) and who has the legal right to make important decisions about education, religion, healthcare, and more (legal custody). Custody can be shared between the parents (joint custody) or granted to only one parent (sole custody). 

Family courts will always prioritize the child’s well-being when making custody decisions, and will usually seek out custody arrangements and visitation schedules that allow the child to maintain a relationship with both parents, unless one is unfit. 

The Impact of Relocation on Custody

When one parent wants or needs to relocate, issues can arise if the new location is far enough away to complicate the existing custody arrangement and visitation schedule or interfere with the non-custodial parent’s ability to maintain a meaningful relationship with the child. The relocating parent can choose to work towards an agreement with the co-parent, pursue the case in court, or seek mediation. 

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Parental Agreement

If both parents agree to the relocation, they can work together on a revised custody agreement. However, the new agreement should be detailed, in writing, and signed by both parties to avoid future disputes. Some practical tips for working with your co-parent are to communicate early, to have a new, proposed custody agreement and visitation schedule already in mind, to be transparent, and to document everything in case you do need to pursue the case in court or mediation. 

Court Approval

If one parent does not agree to the relocation, the other parent can seek to gain court approval by pursuing a relocation or move-away case. Family courts take several things into consideration when deciding on relocation cases, including: 

  • The child’s best interests
  • Reasons for relocation
  • Impact on non-relocating parent
  • Child’s preferences (for older children)
  • Current parenting plans, custody agreements, etc.

Mediation

For parents who cannot reach an agreement but do not wish to pursue the case in court, mediation services can sometimes help resolve relocation disputes. A neutral, third-party mediator can facilitate dialogue and compromise, allowing the parents to reach a new custody arrangement and a visitation schedule that works for everyone. 

Get Legal Support from Family Law Experts

Any time the wellbeing of your children is involved, the stakes are high. If you need to relocate and want to take your children with you or are concerned about the impact your move will have on your visitation rights, or if your co-parent is planning to relocate with your children, consulting with family law experts can help you understand and protect your rights. Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri’s attorneys have extensive experience working with clients dealing with parental relocation issues. Get started with a free consultation to find out how we can help you today!

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

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Gray Divorce: Navigating Divorce Later in Life

March 12, 2025/in Family Law /by Gina Policastri

You are not the same person you were 40, 30, 20, or even 10 years ago. Traveling to new places, meeting new people, and enjoying new experiences continue to change the person you are. Hopefully, that will continue throughout your life. Some couples change and grow together, navigating new interests and finding activities they both enjoy. They enter their golden years, excited for new adventures. Their children are grown and out of the house, and these couples are experiencing the freedom they had put on hold for so many years.

For other couples, they discover something altogether different. During those years of growth and change, their paths diverged. Now that they’re empty-nesters, their life together just feels empty. These couples understand that it may be time to part ways and start to experience life on their own terms. 

The second scenario is becoming increasingly common. So much so that it even has a name: gray divorce.

Why is Gray Divorce Trending Upwards?

You only need to look at the non-fiction bestseller list on any given week to see there is an increasing emphasis on prioritizing personal happiness. That concept has broad cultural implications. We’ve seen couples married for decades that we were sure would last “until death do us part.” They are now reevaluating their choice to stay in a marriage that doesn’t provide them with happiness and satisfaction. But what else has changed?

One significant factor is longer life expectancies. Advancements in healthcare mean that the 50 and beyond group are living longer, healthier lives. Vibrant seniors are entering a new phase in their lives, with decades still ahead. They want those remaining years to represent a fresh start, which means ending an unfulfilling marriage.

Society has become more accepting of divorce over the last few decades. Baby boomers, who have been shaking up societal norms since their births, are leading the way with the gray divorce trend.

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Gray Divorce’s Challenges

Older couples navigating the decision to part ways are discovering that gray divorces come with their own set of challenges. After decades of marriage, couples have accumulated significant assets, such as their primary residence, a second property, investments, and multiple bank accounts. Their most substantial asset is likely a 401(k) that has had years to grow.

According to California’s community property laws, the couple’s assets must be divided 50/50. This includes the 401(k), even if only one spouse was making contributions. 

Another consideration is how California will determine spousal support. Many women have entered the workforce and built successful careers. Still, there are plenty of families where one parent stays home to raise the children while the other works outside the home. Spousal support may be substantial and permanent in gray divorces, where the couple was married for several years, with one parent out of the workforce.

Beyond the Financial Aspect of Gray Divorces

Divorcing after many years together could cause emotional turmoil, especially if one spouse doesn’t want the marriage to end. Identities become intertwined, and it can be challenging to unravel them. This situation can lead to loneliness and depression as one party faces the challenge of navigating a new reality.

Navigating a Gray Divorce Requires Special Care

Divorcing is hard, no matter how long you’ve been married. Still, gray divorces bring their own unique circumstances. They require a caring and compassionate attorney like ours at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri. We have years of family law experience and are ready to help guide you through this challenging situation. We will ensure that your rights are protected and that you receive everything you are entitled to after your decades of marriage.

Contact us for a free consultation by calling (408) 553-0801 and start preparing for your second act.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

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Will Child Custody Be in Favor of the Mother?

February 26, 2025/in Family Law /by Virginia Lively

When parents separate or divorce, one of the most significant concerns is child custody. A common question arises: Will the courts favor the mother in deciding custody arrangements? While many believe that mothers automatically have an advantage, the reality is more nuanced. Let’s explore how custody decisions are made and whether the belief about mothers being favored holds true.

How Courts Decide Child Custody

Family courts prioritize the best interests of the child above all else. This principle means that decisions are made based on what will provide the child with the most stable, loving, and supportive environment. Key factors include:

  • The child’s age, health, and emotional needs
  • Each parent’s ability to provide for the child (e.g., financially, emotionally, and physically)
  • The child’s current routine and stability
  • The child’s relationship with each parent
  • Any history of abuse or neglect

Courts also consider the child’s preference, depending on their age and maturity. There is no automatic assumption that one parent, such as the mother, is inherently better suited to have custody.

Does the Mother Have an Advantage in Custody Cases?

Historically, courts often awarded custody to mothers, especially for young children, under the “tender years doctrine.” This outdated belief assumed that young children needed their mothers for proper care.

Today, most courts have moved away from this presumption. Instead, they strive for gender-neutral custody decisions, meaning both parents have an equal chance to obtain custody based on their ability to meet the child’s needs.

That said, in some cases, mothers may still seem to have an advantage. For example:

Primary Caregiver Role

If the mother has been the primary caregiver—managing day-to-day tasks like meals, school activities, and bedtime routines—courts might view her as the more stable choice for custody.

Societal Expectations

Even though courts are more neutral today, societal expectations sometimes influence how custody arrangements are perceived. Mothers may still be seen as more nurturing, but this bias is decreasing.

Children’s Preferences

If children express a preference to live with their mother and can explain their reasons, courts often take this into account.

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Can Fathers Get Custody?

Absolutely. Many fathers successfully gain custody, especially when they can demonstrate their involvement in the child’s life. Courts are increasingly recognizing the importance of fathers and the benefits of having both parents actively involved.

Fathers who are equally involved as caregivers and can show a strong emotional bond with their children have a solid chance of securing custody, either jointly or fully.

Joint Custody: A Common Outcome

In most cases, courts prefer joint custody arrangements where both parents share decision-making and parenting time. This approach allows children to maintain strong relationships with both parents.

Contact LPEP to Discuss Your Child Custody Case

While mothers historically had an advantage in custody battles, today’s courts emphasize fairness and the child’s best interests. Both parents are evaluated equally, based on their ability to provide a stable and supportive environment.

If you’re navigating a custody case, don’t hesitate to reach out to Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri. We understand how important family is, and we’ll do everything we can to help you see your children as often as you deserve. 

Contact us today to set up your free consultation. 

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

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Understanding Guardianship and Securing the Future for Your Loved Ones

February 12, 2025/in Family Law /by Mitchell Ehrlich

Although it can be difficult to think about, there might come a time when you are unable to care for your loved ones. It’s important to have a plan in place to make sure that you can continue to provide for their needs and give them a stable future. One helpful legal tool to consider is guardianship. Below, you’ll find information about guardianship, including the role of a guardian and the types of guardianship. 

What is Guardianship?

Legally, a guardianship is a relationship where a court appoints an individual (known as the guardian) to be responsible for the well-being of someone who cannot care for, or make important decisions for, themselves (known as the ward). 

What is the Role of a Guardian?

In a guardianship, the guardian is legally responsible to make decisions on behalf of the ward to ensure their well-being and appropriate care. Most often, the scope of decision-making includes:

  • Healthcare – Making sure that all necessary medical treatment is given to meet the ward’s needs
  • Finances – Managing money, bills, investments, etc. and using funds appropriately to care for the ward
  • Living arrangements – Determining the best living environment for the ward and arranging for their physical care 
  • Education –  When the ward is a minor, making decisions about schools and extracurricular activities, as well as ensuring the ward has clothing, school supplies, transportation to school, etc. 

Types of Guardianship

Guardianship typically falls into two categories: for minors and for adults.

Guardianship of a Minor

In the eyes of the law, children under the age of 18 (or, minors) do not have the appropriate life experience to make important decisions for themselves. If a parent becomes unable to care for their minor-aged child, the court will appoint a guardian to take over the parental role.

Guardianship of an Adult

For adults who are incapacitated, whether due to disability, mental health issues, illness, or age, a court will first evaluate whether the person is able to make decisions for themselves or not. If the court deems a guardianship is in the best interests of the individual, they will appoint one, usually with input from family members and health professionals.

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Securing Your Family’s Future

Although your loved ones might not need a guardian yet, it’s important to have a specific and detailed plan in place, especially if you have minor children or a special needs child. You don’t want to leave it up to the courts to decide. Instead, you can include instructions in your estate planning. 

First, choose a guardian who is trustworthy, responsible, in good health, and able to make important decisions on your loved ones’ behalf. Often, guardians are close relatives or trusted family friends.

Next, consult with legal professionals who are experts in family law and estate planning. They can guide you through the estate planning process and help you put appropriate plans in place that will stand up in court and make the process smoother for your family. 

The attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri (LPEP Law) offer a full range of legal services in these areas, including wills and trusts (i.e., living, special needs, life insurance, dynasty, etc.). Call LPEP Law at 408-553-0801 to schedule your free, 30-minute consultation to discuss your family’s needs and start protecting your family’s future today.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter. 

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