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Gretchen Boger

How to Get A Divorce When Your Spouse Doesn’t Want One

November 18, 2021/in Family Law /by Gretchen Boger

Relationships are tricky and don’t always end the way we want them to. If you’ve been stuck in an unhappy marriage for a while, you may be wondering how to get a divorce. It isn’t a snap decision one should make; it takes time and planning. 

Experienced divorce attorneys recommend meeting with an attorney for a divorce planning session. Divorce planning can help you prepare documents and can even help you come up with a plan to tell your spouse you want a divorce. What happens if your spouse doesn’t want a divorce? Divorce planning can help prepare for these obstacles as well. 

How To Tell Your Spouse You Want A Divorce

Sometimes, the most difficult part of getting a divorce is having the conversation with your spouse. You’ve built a relationship over time and may even have children together. Emotions are deeply invested. You need to be delicate with how you deliver this news to your spouse. 

Planning out what you want to say ahead of time can help you avoid bouts of anger or sadness while having the conversation. Make time with your spouse to have the conversation. Even if you think they may have an idea this is coming, you may catch them off guard. Carving out a specific time to have this discussion can help. You also need to have this conversation in private to avoid humiliation, hurt, and to give you both space to feel your emotions. If you want more tips on how to have this talk with your partner, check this out. What if your spouse doesn’t want a divorce?

How To Get A Divorce When Your Spouse Doesn’t Want One

Many people panic when their spouse refuses to agree to a divorce. Most states will not force you to stay in a marriage you wish to be done with. You just need to follow the necessary guidelines for your state on how to get a divorce. 

When you want a divorce but your spouse doesn’t, you can have papers legally served to them. They have a certain period of time to respond to the papers, after which you can reach out to the court for next steps if they don’t reply. Oftentimes, if you’ve followed procedure properly, a court will grant you your divorce.

If, however, your spouse responds within an appropriate amount of time, you will both have to work together to resolve property division, child support, alimony, and other issues. If you can’t reach an agreement, you will have to seek Court involvement to assist in resolving these matters. Also keep in mind if you are considering divorce that California has a 6 month waiting period between when you file for divorce and its finalization, no matter how quickly you reach an agreement.

Getting Help

In certain instances, you may qualify for a summary dissolution. This is a faster, easier procedure. To find out if you qualify, go here. If you’re unsure, meet with an experienced divorce attorney to answer your questions. In many cases, when one party doesn’t want a divorce, the proceedings can become contentious. An experienced attorney will know how to get you divorced as quickly as possible, guide you on what is rightfully yours, and ensure there is as little financial impact as possible. If you live in San Jose or the surrounding areas, Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri offers free 30-minute consultations. Get help with all your divorce needs, such as divorce planning or divorce litigation. Contact us here.

Gretchen Boger

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Gretchen Z. Boger began her law career as a Deputy District Attorney in San Joaquin County from 2007 – 2010. During her tenure with the D.A.’s office, she prosecuted 17 jury trials. Ms. Boger has been practicing family law exclusively since January 2010. Ms. Boger joined Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri in 2013. She received her Juris Doctorate from the University of the Pacific, McGeorge School of Law. During her time at McGeorge, she received a concentration in trial advocacy.

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