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How Enforceable is a Court Order that Pertains to Family Law?

September 12, 2024/in Family Law /by Gretchen Boger

Family law cases can be emotionally charged and complex, often involving sensitive issues like child custody, support, and property division. When a court issues an order in a family law case, it’s crucial to understand its enforceability. In this article, we’ll explain how enforceable these court orders are and what can be done if someone fails to comply.

What is a Family Law Court Order?

A family law court order is a legal document issued by a judge that dictates the obligations and rights of the parties involved in a family law case. These orders can cover a wide range of issues, including:

  • Child custody and visitation: Decisions about where a child will live and how much time they will spend with each parent.
  • Child and spousal support: Financial obligations that one party must provide to the other, often to support the well-being of a child or spouse.
  • Property division: Instructions on how marital property should be divided between the parties.
  • Restraining orders: Orders to protect one party from harassment or harm by the other.

Once a judge signs a court order, it is legally binding, meaning both parties must follow it.

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How Enforceable are Family Law Court Orders?

Once a family law court order is issued, it is immediately enforceable. This means that all parties must comply with the terms outlined in the order. Failing to do so can result in legal consequences. For example, if one parent does not follow a child custody arrangement, they can be held in contempt of court.

Consequences of Non-Compliance with Family Court Law Orders

When someone fails to comply with a family law court order, the affected party can request the court’s assistance in enforcing the order. Here are some common steps that can be taken:

  • Filing a contempt motion: If one party is not following the court order, the other party can file a contempt motion, which requests the court to enforce the order and penalize the non-compliant party. Penalties can include fines, jail time, or modifications to the order.
  • Income withholding: For unpaid child or spousal support, the court can issue an income withholding order, requiring the employer of the non-compliant party to deduct the support amount directly from their paycheck.
  • Wage garnishment and liens: In some cases, the court can garnish wages or place a lien on the non-compliant party’s property to satisfy unpaid obligations.
  • Civil arrest warrants: If a person willfully disobeys a court order, the court may issue a civil arrest warrant, leading to their detention until they agree to comply.

As you can see, there are often serious consequences for non-compliance with family law court orders. 

Need Family Law Support? Contact LPEP Today

Family law is complex, and it’s essential to have experts on your side when it comes to understanding the intricacies of each unique case. If you need family legal advice or support, reach out to our experienced team at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri. Our family law attorneys have decades of experience and a proven track record. 

Contact us today to set up your free consultation. 

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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What is a Material Change in Circumstance for Custody?

August 29, 2024/in Family Law /by Gina Policastri

If you are divorced or separated and have children, you likely worked with your former spouse or a mediator to develop an agreement to provide guidelines for physical custody (i.e., who the child lives with) and legal custody (i.e., who makes decisions on behalf of the child). These agreements are designed to be long-term arrangements to ensure stability for the child involved. However, under certain circumstances, a family court might consider changes to a custody agreement to protect the best interests of the child. 

Legally, a “material change in circumstance” refers to a change in a situation significant enough to affect the outcome of a previous legal decision or agreement. When it comes to material change in circumstances for custody, the following are some of the most common situations that might necessitate a modification of your current agreement.

Change in Parental Circumstances

Several different factors can create changes in circumstances for one or both parents that might result in the need for a new custody agreement, including: 

Relocation – If one parent relocates (for work, due to a new relationship, etc.), the current physical custody arrangement or visitation schedule might become difficult or impossible to maintain. 

Altered financial status – Changes in financial status, for instance getting a higher-paying job, might mean that a non-custodial parent might now be in a better position to be granted joint physical custody. On the flip side, losing a job might impair a custodial parent’s ability to properly care for a child. 

Improvement or deterioration of living situation – Declining health, substance abuse, home foreclosure, etc., might result in a deterioration of a child’s living situation. Conversely, a non-custodial parent might significantly improve their living situation by completing a rehabilitation program, for example, that would allow them to provide a healthy environment for the child.

Behavioral changes – Of course, if either parent begins to exhibit behavior that might negatively impact the child, such as abuse, neglect, or parental alienation, the other parent should file an emergency petition to modify the custody agreement immediately.

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Change in Child’s Preferences or Needs

For older children, especially teenagers, a court might consider a change to a custody agreement based on the child’s preferred living arrangement, as long as the child can present valid reasons for why the change would be a better situation for them.

In some cases, changes in a child’s needs might trigger parents to seek a new custody arrangement. For example, a child who requires special education services might be better served living with a parent who lives in a school district with better resources. 

Joint Request for Change

Parents can file a joint request for a judge to change the terms of their custody agreement if they both agree that modifications are desired, for any reason.

Failure to Uphold Custody Agreement

If either parent refuses to uphold their end of a custody agreement, a family court might step in to order compliance or to change the original agreement as necessary.

Get Help from Family Law Experts

When it comes to your children, you always want what’s best for them. If you are facing custody issues with a former spouse and think you might have grounds to revisit your custody agreement, schedule a free consultation with the Family Law Group at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri. Our family law experts have over 100 years of combined litigation experience and are well-versed in helping our clients navigate the complicated landscape of divorce and custody matters.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Is It Possible for a Judge to Dismiss a Divorce Case in California?

August 22, 2024/in Family Law /by Virginia Lively

Divorce can be a complicated and emotionally challenging process. In California, understanding the circumstances under which a judge can dismiss a divorce case is important for anyone going through or considering divorce. Here, we’ll guide you through the key points about divorce case dismissals in California.

Reasons a Judge Might Dismiss a Divorce Case in California

In short, yes—a judge can dismiss a divorce case in California. There are a few different reasons why this may occur, which we’ll explore now. 

Voluntary Dismissal of a Divorce Case in California

One of the most common reasons a judge might dismiss a divorce case is if both parties decide to reconcile and no longer wish to proceed with the divorce. In such instances, the spouse who filed for divorce (the petitioner) can file a request for dismissal. If both parties agree, the judge can approve the dismissal without much complication.

Lack of Jurisdiction

For a divorce case to move forward in California, the court must have jurisdiction. This requires that at least one spouse has resided in California for a minimum of six months and in the county where the divorce is filed for at least three months. If these residency conditions are not satisfied, the judge may dismiss the case due to a lack of jurisdiction.

Failure to Serve Papers

After filing for divorce, the petitioner must serve divorce papers to the other spouse (the respondent). If the petitioner fails to serve the papers within a specified timeframe, the judge may dismiss the case. Proper service of papers is a crucial step in the divorce process to ensure that both parties are informed and can participate in the proceedings.

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Situations Where a Judge is Unlikely to Dismiss a Divorce Case

While a divorce case may be dismissed in the above scenarios, there are many situations where dismissing the divorce is not a likely outcome. Here are some examples of those. 

Contested Divorces

In situations where one spouse desires a divorce while the other does not, it is unlikely that the judge will dismiss the case. California follows a “no-fault” divorce policy, allowing either spouse to initiate divorce proceedings without needing to demonstrate any misconduct by the other. If one spouse is determined to proceed, the judge typically permits the case to move forward.

Pending Legal Issues

If there are ongoing legal issues such as child custody, property division, or spousal support, the judge is also less likely to dismiss the case. These matters need to be resolved before the divorce can be finalized, and the judge will usually proceed with the case to address these issues, even if one party requests a dismissal.

How to Request a Dismissal and When to Seek Advice 

If you and your spouse decide to reconcile or if you want to dismiss the case for any other reason, you can file a Request for Dismissal (Form CIV-110). This form must be completed and submitted to the court. If both parties agree to the dismissal, the process is generally straightforward.

If you need to request a dismissal, it’s essential to follow the correct legal procedures and ensure that all necessary paperwork is filed. Our experienced team of family law attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can help you every step of the way, and will always strive to represent your best interests. 

Contact us today to schedule your free consultation. 

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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How Does a Family Law Attorney Help in Child Support Matters?

August 8, 2024/in Family Law /by Mitchell Ehrlich

There are very few things that match the joy of having a child. Watching them grow and discover new things reminds us of the magic of childhood. We are given the opportunity to guide them and instill our values. If we do a good job, they eventually leave the family nest and take those values with them into the world.

But it isn’t cheap. California’s average cost of raising a child from birth until eighteen is approximately $310,000. This is just the essentials, such as housing, food, and clothing. It doesn’t include sports, extracurricular activities, or saving for college.

Financial Responsibility to Our Children

As parents, we have a legal and moral responsibility to support our children financially. At the most fundamental level, that means ensuring they have

The proper food to support their growth and development

  • A safe and stable living environment
  • Appropriate clothing for the different seasons and occasions
  • Access to medical care

By investing in their education and planning for their future, we are preparing them for their own financial independence.

Financial Support Should Come from Both Parents

Raising a child is a shared endeavor that requires contributions from both parents. It is not up to one parent to supply all of their child’s needs. According to California law, both parents are legally required to provide financially for their child’s support.

Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. And, it can be almost impossible for the custodial parent to make the non-custodial parent help pay for the support of their children.

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The Role of a Family Law Attorney

A family law attorney is crucial in ensuring child support matters are handled fairly and in compliance with California laws.

One of the primary roles of a family law attorney is to educate parents about the legal obligations of both custodial and non-custodial parents. They provide information on how child support amounts are determined per California’s formulas, which consider parental income, time spent with the child, and other relevant expenses.

A family law attorney can also assist their client in filing petitions for child support and ensuring that all the required information is accurate and complete. They can also help gather evidence, including financial documents, income statements, and other information needed to support child support claims.

Enforcing Child Support Court Orders

If the child support issue is in dispute, a family law attorney will advocate for their client’s interests during hearings, introduce evidence, and present arguments. They will also negotiate with the opposing counsel to try to reach a fair settlement. Furthermore, if the other parent fails to comply, they will work with the court to enforce the child support orders.

Child Support Modification

Sometimes, life circumstances change, and the existing child support orders need modification. The family law attorney can also help with that. They will evaluate changes in income, employment status, or custody arrangements to determine if they warrant a modification. If so, they will file a request with the court to ensure the support payments remain fair and reflect the current situation.

LPEP Law Can Help

Having a skilled family law attorney can significantly impact the outcome of child support matters. Our dynamic team at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri can work with you and advocate on your behalf to ensure your child receives the financial support they deserve.

Contact us for a free consultation by calling (408) 553-0801 and enjoy the peace of mind that comes from knowing your child support matters will be resolved fairly and efficiently.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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How Can I Legally Break the Relationship With a Parent?

July 25, 2024/in Family Law /by Gretchen Boger

Family relationships can be complicated. Unfortunately, children sometimes find themselves in situations of abuse or neglect that lead them to seek a legal separation from one or both parents. Severing or limiting legal ties with a parent can take various forms, depending on the age of the child and the jurisdiction. The following are a few of the avenues that might be open to you if you wish to legally break the relationship with a parent.

Emancipation of a Minor

Some states recognize a legal process known as emancipation of a minor. Minimum age requirements vary but are usually around 16 or 17 (although minors as young as 14 can petition for emancipation in California). In general, there are three ways to seek emancipation: by getting married; by joining the military; or through a court order called a Declaration of Emancipation. 

To petition the court for a Declaration of Emancipation, the minor needs to prove that they meet the minimum age requirements of the state of residence, do not live with their parents (and the parents are not opposed to this situation), and can support themselves legally.

Although in some ways an emancipated minor acts as an adult, they are not legally an adult and certain laws will still apply to them (e.g., they have to go to school, cannot vote until 18, cannot buy alcohol until 21, etc.) until they are of age.

Adoption

In most cases, if an adult legally adopts a minor, the court will terminate or vacate the legal rights of the biological parents. Many adoptions require the biological parents to agree to terminate their parental rights, and, in cases where the child is old enough, they might also be required to give consent.

A legal document titled "Termination of Parental Rights" on a desk, symbolizing the formal process of ending a parent-child relationship.

Termination of Parental Rights

Family courts seek the best interests of children first. In extreme cases of abuse or neglect or where a parent is unable to appropriately care for a minor, the court might terminate parental rights, thus legally severing ties between the parent and child. If you are a minor still living with your parents and feel unsafe or are experiencing abuse or neglect, talk to a trusted adult like a teacher or school counselor or call your state’s Child Protective Services to report it. They will find a safe place for you and discuss next steps and options.

Legal Estrangement

Once you are 18 years old, your parents no longer have legal rights to make decisions for you. If you feel that this level of independence from your parents is not enough, you can sometimes seek to have a court formally acknowledge legal estrangement between you and your parent(s). Legal estrangement will affect your inheritance rights but also your obligations to provide parental support in the future. Some individuals also choose to legally change their name to further distance themselves from their parents. 

Get the Help You Need Today

Before you pursue any of the above legal approaches to breaking the relationship with a parent, it’s a good idea to consult with a family law expert to better understand all your options and their repercussions. The family law group at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri is one of the largest family law practices in the Bay Area and has years of experience navigating complex family issues. Contact us today for a free, no-obligation consultation.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies for Minimizing Stress and Resolving Disputes

July 5, 2024/in Family Law /by Gina Policastri

Divorce is never an easy process. In some cases, though, a divorce might become highly contentious due to disagreements about finances, child custody issues, infidelity, substance abuse, career choices, etc. Navigating a high-conflict divorce comes with different challenges, but the strategies outlined below can help minimize the stress on you and your family as you work toward resolving disputes with your former spouse. 

Clear Communication is Key

Even if you are the injured party, do your best to communicate in a civil and respectful way, especially in writing. While you cannot control the actions of your former partner, you can be careful about how you present yourself. Establish healthy boundaries to protect your emotions, agreeing to discuss pertinent issues only and letting your ex-partner know what topics are completely off-limits. If your former spouse makes communication extremely difficult, consider working through a mediator or other third party.

Stay Organized

Keeping track of all written communication, dates, agreements, co-parenting schedules, and court documents is essential to reducing the stress in a high-conflict divorce situation. If disputes come up, especially during court proceedings, you will have documentation to support your position. 

Be Flexible

While you may be completely in the right, and it is important to advocate for your rights, remember that some compromise will likely be necessary to resolve issues. Coming to a divorce agreement that is satisfactory to both sides regarding child support, custody, and visitation; spousal support; and division of the marital estate almost always requires some negotiation, unless there is a prenuptial agreement in place.  

Focus on the Positive

During your divorce, you and your family are likely experiencing a wide range of emotions and stress levels. To the best of your ability, try to focus on the positive, recognizing that this time is just a small chapter in your life and brighter days are ahead. If children are involved, give them something to look forward to like a trip to the beach or a visit to see grandparents. Engage in some self-care as well, maybe scheduling yourself a massage or spending time with friends, relaxing and enjoying leisure activities to de-stress.

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Build a Support System

Now more than ever, you need the support of friends and family and maybe even a therapist or counselor as well. You might even seek out a support group online or at a local place of worship. Don’t be afraid to ask for emotional and mental support. Having outside perspectives and encouragement can be very helpful.

Seek Guidance From Professionals

It’s never a bad idea to consult with professionals who have experience resolving high-conflict divorces. The Family Law Group at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri has been helping clients navigate complex divorce cases for decades. Our team can help you make informed decisions and resolve disputes with your former spouse either through mediation and collaborative divorce, or in court. Call us today at (408) 553-0801 to schedule a free, 30-minute consultation to go over the details of your case. Let our team work to protect your rights and your family’s future.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Family Law and LGBTQ+ Couples: Navigating Unique Legal Challenges

June 20, 2024/in Family Law /by Virginia Lively

For LGBTQ+ couples, navigating the family law landscape can be particularly challenging due to historical biases, evolving laws, and unique family dynamics. Today, we’ll explore the specific legal challenges faced by LGBTQ+ couples and offer insights into navigating these complexities.

Unique Legal Challenges for LGBTQ+ Couples and Family Law

Family law brings some unique legal challenges for LGBTQ+ couples, which can vary dramatically from state to state. Let’s take a look at some of the challenges that these couples often have to face. 

Marriage and Civil Unions

While same-sex marriage is now recognized in many jurisdictions, some regions still only offer civil unions or domestic partnerships. These alternatives often do not provide the same legal benefits and protections as marriage. LGBTQ+ couples in these areas must navigate complex legal systems to ensure their rights are upheld, particularly in matters such as inheritance, taxation, and spousal benefits.

Adoption and Parental Rights

Adoption laws can be particularly challenging for LGBTQ+ couples. In some states, same-sex couples face discriminatory practices, making it difficult to adopt children. Additionally, legal recognition of parental rights for non-biological parents in same-sex relationships can be complicated. Ensuring both parents have legal standing often requires additional legal steps, such as second-parent adoption or securing court orders.

Surrogacy and Assisted Reproduction

Surrogacy and assisted reproduction present another layer of complexity. Laws surrounding surrogacy vary widely, and some jurisdictions have restrictive regulations that make it difficult for LGBTQ+ couples to access these services. Ensuring that both partners are legally recognized as parents often necessitates navigating a labyrinth of legal requirements, including pre-birth orders and post-birth adoption processes.

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Legal Protections and Advocacy for LGBTQ+ Couples 

Legal protections against discrimination are vital for ensuring equality for same-gender couples. Anti-discrimination laws in areas such as employment, housing, and public accommodations help safeguard the rights of LGBTQ+ individuals. However, these laws are not uniformly enforced, and gaps remain in many regions. Advocacy and legal action are essential to address these disparities and promote equal treatment under the law.

Estate planning is another critical area where LGBTQ+ couples must be particularly vigilant. Wills, trusts, and other estate planning tools can help ensure that a partner’s wishes are honored in the event of death. Without proper legal documentation, surviving partners may face challenges in inheriting property or accessing financial benefits. Consulting with legal professionals who specialize in LGBTQ+ issues is crucial for effective estate planning.

Tips for Navigating Family Law as an LGBTQ+ Couple

Each case and situation are of course unique, but there are still some general tips we can offer for LGBTQ+ couples navigating through family law situations. Here are some things to keep in mind along the way. 

Seek Legal Counsel

Given the complexities of family law for an LGBTQ+ couple, seeking specialized legal counsel is essential. Lawyers who are knowledgeable about LGBTQ+ issues can provide invaluable guidance in navigating the legal system, ensuring that couples understand their rights and the steps needed to protect them.

Embrace Community Support and Resources

Beyond legal counsel, community support organizations and resources play a vital role. LGBTQ+ advocacy groups offer support, information, and resources to help couples navigate legal challenges. These organizations can connect individuals with legal professionals, provide educational materials, and advocate for policy changes to promote equality.

LPEP: Experienced in Family Law for LGBTQ+ Couples 

While significant progress has been made in recognizing and protecting the rights of same-gender couples, many unique legal challenges remain. Navigating these challenges requires awareness, advocacy, and specialized legal support. 

At LPEP Law, our family law experts are well-versed in the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ couples. Contact us today to schedule your free consultation and ensure the best possible outcomes for you and your family.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Co-Parenting Communication: Strategies for Effective Collaboration After Divorce

June 13, 2024/in Family Law /by Mitchell Ehrlich

Being a parent is not easy. But communication and co-parenting with your ex-spouse after a divorce takes it to a whole new level. The two of you once thought you would spend the rest of your lives together; however, your paths took a different course.

Now, you are expected to set aside hurt feelings and angry words so the two of you can focus on raising your children. Fortunately, no matter where you are emotionally, whether there is still a lot of contention or you and your ex-spouse are on more amicable terms, there are strategies so the two of you can communicate and focus on your children.

The Importance of Collaborative Co-Parenting

You and your ex-spouse are going through a difficult time. But amid the emotional turmoil, both of you need to prioritize the well-being of your kids. A co-parenting approach that focuses on communication, cooperation, and mutual respect helps to ensure a stable and supportive environment for your children. Having both parents remain actively involved in their lives will make it easier for your children to adjust to the new family dynamics.

Effective co-parenting also allows you and your co-parent to demonstrate essential life skills such as problem-solving and conflict resolution. Your children will learn by observing you and seeing you work together amicably, which sets a positive example for handling challenges in the future.

Part of collaborative co-parenting is ensuring that you and your ex-spouse are on the same page regarding parenting styles and disciplinary measures. Children benefit from consistency in rules, discipline, and expectations across both households, which can lead to fewer behavioral issues.

Finding a Way to Communicate

Effective communication is essential for co-parenting to work. Numerous communication tools are available, so you and your ex-spouse can choose the method that is best for your situation.

In-Person

If the two of you can talk face-to-face without anger and tension coming to the surface, then having in-person meetings may be a good choice. This allows for real-time discussion and immediate resolution of issues. Being in the same physical space also enables you to read body language and facial expressions, which can aid in understanding.

However, if both of you have busy schedules, finding a mutually convenient time and place to meet may be challenging. Also, this communication approach may not be feasible if you and the other co-parent live far apart.

Text Messaging/Email

Communicating via text message is ideal for brief updates and quick exchanges of information. Email is more suitable for detailed discussions. Both provide a written record of conversations that can be referred back to. They also allow parents time to reflect and think about what they want to say before replying at their convenience.

One major drawback to texting and email is that they can be easily misinterpreted due to a lack of tone and context. They can also become cumbersome for ongoing discussions.

Co-Parenting Apps

Several apps are available specifically designed for co-parents. Many offer comprehensive tools like shared calendars, expense tracking, and message boards to keep everything organized. These apps also provide a neutral platform for communication, which can reduce emotional tension. 

However, learning how to use all the features may take time, especially if one or both parents aren’t tech-savvy. Furthermore, some apps require a subscription to access the premium features.

Some parents may choose to use all the different methods of communication, depending on the situation. It’s also important to remember that your co-parenting relationship may change, and while you may be using a neutral platform now, it may not be necessary in the future.

Tips for Communicating with Your Co-Parent

You and your ex-spouse want to create a nurturing and stable environment for your children, even though you are no longer in a relationship. Here are some practical tips for better communication:

  1. Focus on your children and keep their best interests at the forefront of any conversation.
  2. Don’t use your children as messengers. Communicate directly with your co-parent. This reduces the risk of misunderstandings and keeps your kids out of adult issues.
  3. Agree on the appropriate times and methods of communication.
  4. Establish clear boundaries and be respectful of each other’s schedules and commitments.
  5. Maintain a polite and respectful tone, even when discussing difficult issues.
  6. Stay focused on the current topic and avoid bringing up past conflicts.

Remember that your ultimate goal is to ensure your children feel loved, supported, and secure.

Seek Professional Help When Needed

Finding effective communication methods can be difficult. Sometimes, communications break down, or conflicts become unmanageable. Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastric can work with you and provide valuable tools and strategies for improving communication. We are certified family law specialists with extensive expertise in handling complex cases. Our attorneys can also provide mediation services to facilitate communication between you and your co-parent.

Contact us for a free consultation by calling (408) 553-0801 to discuss how we can help you and your ex-spouse establish an effective collaborative co-parenting relationship.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Estate Planning Essentials When You Have a New Baby

May 30, 2024/in Family Law /by Michael Lonich

Welcoming a new baby into the family is one of life’s most exciting occasions, but there’s also a lot to think about! Amidst all the excitement and flurry of activity that comes with a new addition, it’s easy for parents to overlook important matters like estate planning. 

While it may not be the most glamorous aspect of parenthood to consider, ensuring that your estate plan is up-to-date and comprehensive is crucial for the well-being and security of your growing family.

7 Estate Planning Steps After Having a Baby

Here are some essential steps to take when updating your estate plan after the arrival of a new baby. Don’t worry if you can’t get to them right away—these are just food for thought as you enter this new chapter of your life. 

1. Create or Update Your Will

If you haven’t already done so, now is the time to create a will or update your existing one to include provisions for your new child. Your will should designate a guardian for your child in the event that both parents pass away before the child reaches adulthood. This is perhaps the most important decision you’ll make in your estate planning process, so it’s essential to carefully consider who would be the best fit to care for your child.

2. Establish a Trust

You might want to establish a trust for your child, allowing them to oversee and allocate assets. This trust can offer financial assistance for their education, healthcare, and other necessities, all while ensuring responsible management of the assets until they reach a specific age or milestone.

3. Designate Beneficiaries

Review and update the beneficiaries listed on your life insurance policies, retirement accounts, and any other assets that pass outside of probate. Make sure to include your new child as a beneficiary, and consider establishing contingent beneficiaries in case your primary beneficiaries predecease you.

4. Consider Life Insurance

With the added responsibility of a new child, it’s wise to review your life insurance coverage to ensure that it adequately provides for your family’s financial needs in the event of your death. Life insurance can help replace lost income, pay off debts, and provide for your child’s future expenses.

5. Plan for Incapacity

Estate planning encompasses not only posthumous considerations but also includes provisions for potential incapacity. Designate someone you trust to make financial and healthcare decisions on your behalf through powers of attorney and healthcare directives.

6. Document Your Wishes

Communicate your wishes to your loved ones and make sure they know where to find important documents such as your will, trust documents, and insurance policies. Having open and honest conversations about your estate plan can help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts down the road.

7. Regularly Review and Update Your Plan

Life is constantly changing, and so should your estate plan. Make it a priority to review and update your plan regularly, especially after major life events such as the birth of a child, marriage, divorce, or the acquisition of significant assets.

Bonus: Discuss Your Estate Planning With Our Experts

Estate planning can be a complicated process, and the arrival of a new baby can add an extra layer of complexity. If you’re not sure where to start, our expert Estate Planning Attorneys are always available to discuss your specific needs and help prepare your estate planning documents. We’ll help you make the right decisions for you and your family, ensuring your newest family member is well-protected for whatever the future may hold. 

Don’t leave anything to chance—get started today with a free consultation from LPEP. 

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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Can I Remove My Spouse From the Deed to My House?

May 23, 2024/in Family Law /by Gretchen Boger

We enter marriage with the belief that it will last forever. Therefore, we do things to support that ideal, such as putting our spouse on the deed to our house.

But sometimes, life doesn’t go as we planned, and we realize the person we married isn’t the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. However, before initiating divorce proceedings, you will want to take some time to consider your situation and the best way forward, including removing your spouse from the deed to your house.

Can it be done? Yes. But, depending on the scenario, it could become complicated.

First Scenario: You and Your Spouse Purchased the House Together

In California, a community property state, any property acquired by either spouse during the marriage is regarded as jointly owned by both partners. During a divorce, marital assets are divided equally, regardless of whether the marriage lasted three years or thirty. Consequently, both parties possess equal ownership rights to the property.

If you and your spouse purchased the house together, you will need to buy out your spouse’s interest in the property. Once the divorce decree is signed, your spouse must sign a quitclaim deed giving up their rights to the property. If they refuse to do so, you must return to court to ask and request that the judgment be enforced.

Second Scenario: You Owned the House Before Marriage and Added Your Spouse to the Deed

Any property you acquired before the marriage is generally considered separate property, and the spouse who owned the home before marriage typically retains ownership after the divorce. But if you add your spouse to the deed, it becomes more complex. 

By adding your spouse to the deed of a home you owned outright before marriage, you have effectively changed the property’s character from separate to potentially community property. This act can be interpreted as a gift to the marital community, meaning both spouses now have an equal ownership interest in the property.

However, the specifics can vary greatly depending on circumstances:

  • If there were a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement specifying that you retain ownership of the house in the event of a divorce, that agreement would likely prevail.
  • If you can prove that it was not your intention to make a gift of the property to the marital community, the court might consider this evidence. However, changing a title to include a spouse’s name typically signifies an intent to gift, and proving otherwise may be difficult.

Legal Advice is Critical

Preparing for your divorce is crucial before you file, especially when it involves protecting your assets. Given the complexities involved in your situation, it’s vital that you work with an attorney who understands the nuances of California’s community property laws. Our attorneys at Lonich Patton Ehrlich Policastri have over a decade of experience and can advise you on your rights and options for retaining ownership of your home.

Contact us for a free consultation by calling (408) 553-0801. We can help you reach a positive resolution to your case.

Disclaimer: this article does not constitute a guarantee, warranty, or prediction regarding the outcome of your legal matter.

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